Dear Tom:

You shared about your last company back in May- June, 2019, five years ago:  “I have accepted the new role and am looking forward to the move. I am currently working my notice in my current position” (June 12, 2019)

Today: “After 5 years with my last company, I took a new job offer around and am now 4 weeks in, about to start my 5th week… It’s a well paid job so I feel there is pressure to deliver and make it work. My partner and myself have a mortgage etc. so its not as simple as going to find another job. I feel my confidence is draining while I am there, and I come home unhappy etc. with it impacting my sleep. I know its only been 4 weeks and I will of course give it more time but any tips/words would be appreciated. Thanks“-

– You are welcome, and I am glad you posted again. My tip: Anxiety Management.

Psychology today/ strategies to manage anxiety: “Anxiety can feel like a monster that is out of control and you have no way of conquering it: nothing could be further from the truth. You can make choices to reduce your anxiety. You have the power. By adopting these seven strategies and restructuring your habits, the anxiety monster gets less scary and slowly loses its power. Schedule/Routine:… Awareness:…Deep Breathing:…”

Healthline/ how to cope with anxiety: “If you deal with anxiety, there are strategies you can use to help manage immediate symptoms, as well as long-term methods to combat recurring issues…  Low impact exercises like walking, yoga, and tai-chi can often help people to reduce stress and manage anxiety symptoms… If anxiety is a regular part of your life, it’s important to find treatment strategies to help you keep it in check. If you’re unsure where to start, discussing options with a mental health professional who might suggest something you hadn’t thought of before… If your anxiety is severe enough that your mental health professional believes you’d benefit from medication, there are several directions, depending on your symptoms. Discuss your concerns with your doctor…”.

I hope you post again, Tom, and that we can communicate here for awhile.

anita

Hi Tom

I’m sorry to hear that you’re stressed in your new job. What do you think are the most stressful parts about it? You mentioned that the culture is different and there is pressure to deliver. Are there other things too?

Something that helped me to manage anxiety in a new job, since I was already stressing about stuff was to reflect briefly on the day when I got home.

I considered what went well, what didn’t go so well, things that I would do differently if the situation reoccurred.

I find taking notes in general helpful for learning what to do in a new role, that way if I don’t remember something I can check back.

Figuring out a strategy for how to deliver your objectives might be helpful too. Another thing I like to do is ask others for advice.

But yes, after reflecting it was important to move on with my day any time I found myself starting to worry, I would look at my journal and think to myself, I’m already doing my best to learn and figure things out, there isn’t anything else that I can do, so there is no point worrying about it.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏