I feel like reaching out to you, through this computer screen and hushing, calming the Stressed and anxious q.
“I feel like giving up even though idk what giving up means.”- how about giving up on any and all the pressure you (and others) have placed on you, allowing yourself to just be.. To not earn the right to be calm and in peace, but to just take what’s always been your right: to be calm, to allow yourself peace of mind.
I want to go back to the past and make the right moves, say the right things so I don’t end up in this position. I’m always in a cycle of being hopeful and going back to wanting to give up. I’m quite calm on the surface but everything inside me is brewing and idk how to move forward.
Anyway, just an update, the chances of reconciliation are officially zero and the door has been closed. I knew this would be the outcome but I’m still feeling numb. I’m still feeling numb and bad even though the break up was months ago and now I just had the final nail in the coffin.
If I could turn back time, I would not hold on and move on completely as hard as that sounds. All my friends told me I dodged a bullet but I’m still unhappy.
I know I should move on but I’m not sure how to do that and I can’t really move forward at the moment. Any tips or advice or kind words could be of great help. Thank you.
I am better than I was earlier in the day, thank you for asking.
My tips/ advice: allow yourself to feel better by simplifying your thinking. Replace complicated thinking (ex., “If I could turn back time”)- which makes moving on difficult- with: Time cannot be turned back. And then think accordingly to this simple fact of life.
My kind words: You are a good person, q. You don’t deserve to suffer unnecessarily. Have mercy for yourself. Exercise empathy for you 🙂
I’m feeling a little strange. I’m all out of tears, I’m not particularly sad anymore. I don’t know how to describe what I’m feeling. I know I should move on and focus on things about my own life. I can’t help but feel like I wasted my time, disrespected myself. Yes i think what i’m feeling is this whole situation isn’t fair but life is never fair.
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