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  • January 26, 2016 at 12:00 am #93739
    Melissa
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    Hi,

    I do fall asleep. It’s not that I have a problem with. It’s more that every morning I think about the same thing, with a few days as exceptions. It’s always about the same negative things. I keep telling myself ‘it’s because you have a lot of deadlines coming up, you’re stressed, when those are done this won’t happen, or at least you’ll be able to handle it better’. Could it be just stress? But I feel that’s just something I’m desperately telling myself to get through. I feel like I’m trying to keep it together for everyone; my work, my mother, my relationship but I feel like I’m breaking at the seams a bit, not completely. I’m so tired of the same thoughts every morning. I just wanted to tell someone, anyone really that that’s what I’m feeling because I feel like I can’t tell anyone else at the moment

    January 26, 2016 at 5:07 am #93740
    Inky
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    Hi Melissa,

    It could very well be the stress of the deadlines. Once those are out of the way and you still have “monkey-mind” when trying to sleep or waking up from sleep, see if you can change the script so your body/mind has something new to ponder.

    Ideas:

    An alarm with meditative/spa music
    Jump out of bed immediately singing something
    Exercise
    Sleeping in a different room
    Prayer
    Yoga

    During the day try therapy or meditation to change the script of the negative thoughts. Or simply go on a good old fashioned vacation to get away. Even by yourself for the weekend!!

    Blessings,

    Inky

    January 26, 2016 at 9:41 am #93752
    Anonymous
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    Dear Melissa:

    One thing that caught my eye in your post is that you are trying to keep it together for your mother, your relationship, your work… This means to me that you are not receiving comfort from those you are trying to keep it together for. You can’t do it alone, that is life, you can’t do life alone (“It takes a village” comes to mind). Deadlines are distressing, so are many other things and therefore you always need comfort in others. You comfort them and go get comforted by them.

    What do you think?

    anita

    January 26, 2016 at 12:25 pm #93825
    Amanda
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    Oh my god i was literally going through the same thing last week, for about two weeks straight. I had a deadline for a business project and i would literally break night thinking about how i needed to do it, picturing different negative scenerios that could happen if i didnt complete it on time. Everything ended up going just fine. Truth is, it really all is in your mind. You have to trust yourself, and know that you can diminish your own anxiety because ultimitely you are the one that is creating it and it is not seperate from you. Once you finish everything you need to do for your deadlines, you will feel less stressed because you will have gotten everything out the way. I find it hard to do meditation sometimes when there is a lot on my mind, but its helpful to take five minutes and set an intention that youll only focus on your breath for five minutes and nothing else, and you can set an alarm so youre not sitting there waiting till the five minutes are over. Give your mind some clarity, and breathe , and know that everything passes and everything is temporary so all of the re occuring thoughts you have will soon fade away weather you believe it or not. I am an overthinker constantly having the same self limiting thoughts all the time, but you have to realize that you are the creator of your own universe and that nothing has to effect you if you dont let it, you choose your thoughts and emotions all the time and you have complete control over what you feel, dont lose touch with the power within you because you are the power ! i hope this helped and i hope you get a good nights sleep, try listening to binurial beats with headphones before you sleep and let it play throughout the whole night, its a type of music that releases theta and alpha waves to help you fall asleep faster, also chamomile tea helps me relax, as well as yoga 🙂 we all go through rough spots in our lives , youre not alone and you will get through it , best of luck . Also dont keep it together for anyone, live for yourself, be happy for yourself, and others around you will be positively effected by your happiness, when youre worried about keeping it together for everyone you just fall apart more because you feel more pressure to act okay for the people around you but this is your life, and you need to be happy for yourself, and happy with yourself so you can be happy for others.

    January 31, 2016 at 10:06 am #94394
    Chenai
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    Hey Melissa,

    I think the root to all of this is that there isn’t a self care routine in place where, despite the demands of day to day life and of people around you, what you want is being put on hold. Maybe start by having a ‘Me hour’ every night before you go to bed where you turn off your phone, read, meditate, do some yoga… Whatever relaxes and serves you and only you. Sometimes you need to put yourself first in order to sleep better and feel better.

    I hope this helps, peace and love

    Chenai xx

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