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Sister is in hospice, I’m not going to live without her

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    Anonymous
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    Hi Lulu

    I love the beautiful memories you shared about your sister. Please feel free to continue to share as much as you want about anything you want.

    You, your family and your sister have been through so much and are going through so much right now.

    It is a hard way for you to find out how long your sister has left. I don’t imagine there is an easy way to find out, but there is a kinder way to find out. I’m sorry that your mom is having difficulty talking about it.

    I can’t imagine how painful it must feel to have days or a week left with a sister. Is there anything that you would like to do with her, your family would like to do with her? Anything that she would like to do with you? Anything that you would like to say to her?

    I can tell how much she means to you and to you all. How much you love her. I know that one thing is important. To hug her and to tell her you love her every time you see her.

    I can tell how much she loves you all because of how hard she fought to stay with you all as long as she could and tried her best to be strong for you all.

    I can see how hard it is for you, grieving your beautiful sister. Please communicate to your family when you need help and support with that. Your aunt sounds like a good person to confide in. You deserve support! Please do not suffer with this alone.

    Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏

    #438990
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lulu:

    I am so sorry, Lulu, that your sister’s cancer is now at stage 4, and that understandably, you are in much pain.

    You ended your today’s post (Oct 27, 2024) with: “I feel so stuck. I wish, more than anything, I could heal her. I wish I could do it all over again, I wish I could accept it more easily. The only thing I can do is cry, hold her and record. It’s all I have. I’m not certain I’ll ever be ok ever again.“-

    – You expressed above how much you wish that you could heal her. You may not be able to heal her, but you can help her. On May 1 this year, five months and 26 days ago, you wrote (I am adding the boldface feature selectively here): “A large part of me wants to go into the psychology field to learn my place in the world both socially and mentally, and to explore a side of myself that I find uncomfortable or disconnected so that I could help others.

    Helping others is a high value for you, something that you are passionate about. Let this passion keep you strong and determined to live and help yourself and others.

    She’s always been a leader, not a follower… She’s an artist… She’s a perfectionist. She spent hours practicing her curves until it was perfect, and threw away so many art pieces and drawings because they ‘weren’t good enough’… She was a straight-A student throughout middle school… She was always surrounded by her friends… She doesn’t complain; she always makes the best of things… always spoke her mind… Above all else, though, she’s always been my best friend… I was always the writer, and she was the artist.. My sister is so strong… She always tries to do the right thing“-

    – I notice how at times you refer to her in the past tense. I notice your great love for her. Your great love for her is never going to be in the past tense, is it. Fueled by your love for her, make some of your sister’s ways be your ways: be more of a leader, less of a follower. Make the best of things.. best you can. Speak your mind more often. Be a best friend to others. Continue to be the writer, the talented writer that you are. Be strong. Continue to try to do the right thing.

    Here is a poem that appeared first in Dec 1934, close to 90 years ago, in its original version (under the title Immortality): “Do not stand at my grave and weep- I am not there; I do not sleep.- I am a thousand winds that blow.- I am the diamond glints on snow.- I am the sunlight on ripened grain.- I am the gentle autumn rain.- When you awaken in the morning’s hush- I am the swift uplifting rush- Of quiet birds in circled flight.- I am the soft stars that shine at night.- Do not stand at my grave and cry;- I am not there. I did not die.”

    It’s good to read from you again, Lulu, 2 months and 25 days since you posted last (Aug 2, 2024). I would like to read from you again and again. It’s a privilege to read your heart-felt, talented and insightful posts.

    anita

     

    #439001
    anita
    Participant

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    Thinking of you and your family, Lulu.

    anita

    #439097
    Lulu
    Participant

    She passed this morning. My family is in shambles. I’m not sure what the next step is.

    #439098
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lulu: I am sorry, sorry for your loss and pain. Tell me more, if you can. More about her last moments.. her words, if any?

    anita

    #439102
    Anonymous
    Inactive

    Hi Lulu

    My deepest condolences for your the loss of your beloved sister. ❤️

    Usually, the next step is the funeral.

    Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏

    #439106
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Lulu: still thinking about you, wanting you to take good care of yourself during this difficult time, and at any other time.

    anita

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