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  • May 2, 2018 at 9:23 am #205247
    Anonymous
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    Dear Juna:

    You wrote: “Part of me feel that he is  a  good man except this lack of communication”- reads to me  that his silent treatment is not happening on his part  because he doesn’t  know how to communicate. Reads to me that  he  is communicating  something to you by this silent treatment. Maybe  he is communicating the following: “if you give  me any trouble, I  will punish you!”

    The punishment is  the silent treatment. Do you think this is what he is  communicating to you, that he  doesn’t want you to complain about anything, that he  doesn’t want  you to  upset him in any way, and that  if  you will upset him (say the wrong thing perhaps, at the wrong time), he will punish you with his silence or a break up…?

    anita

    May 3, 2018 at 3:24 am #205355
    Eliana
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    Hi Juna,

    I do feel his “ignoring” you is a red flag and should not be tolerated as that is a sign of disrespect toward you. I think healthy boundaries need to be put in place. He is ignoring you, while talking to other women online? Did I get that right? That would be a deal breaker for me. I would not tolerate rude or disrespectful treatment from a man. I would talk to him about his treatment..but you can’t fix him or make him change.

    It does not sound like you may be compatible perhaps, as you both have different styles of communication, and very much a lack of communication, with no boundaries in place and no healthy relationship can come from this. Do you think the both of you can look into therapy with boundaries, ways of coping, communication strategies, with a qualified therapist? Reads to me, that he is busy having fun being on the internet talking to women and not ready to settle down at this time. x

    May 3, 2018 at 5:20 am #205401
    Inky
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    Hi Juna,

    Dating a man with kids is usually a bad idea. Not to mention that he has so many kids in his eyes that he hid the existence of one of them (!).

    If he thinks giving you the silent treatment will be a sort of training exercise for you to behave, DUMP HIM.

    The best part? You don’t even have to tell him he’s been dumped. Simply not return his (eventual and inevitable) calls, texts and emails. He will be in the limbo land of non-communication himself. “Are we together or not?” If he writes back that it’s over (this is about Control), you write back the exact date and time you dumped him but he didn’t know it.

    Best,

    Inky

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