Hi zxy

You are not alone, be assured. A first love is pretty intense and I’ll bet most people remember those heady days of romance and desire.

Sad to hear that it turned sour but it is a most energetic age with ups and downs, anxieties, hopes, disappointments. Your symptoms sound very familiar.
See what I believe in is that if you really loved him set him free because right now he might be feeling suffocated because you dint like his friends and asked him to not meet them after school hours which he used to enjoy and because he might be feeling pressurised he asked you to not tell him whom he should meet or not so just set him free, if he comes back then hes yours, If he doesn’t comes back he was never yours.

And because you are feeling lost and lonely you might read this :

http://www.magicalvibe.com/are-you-tired-of-feeling-lonely/

Thanks
Mishika:)

• This reply was modified 8 years, 5 months ago by Mishika.

A few things that I see here , you only knew him for 6 months, not much time to get to know someone, you are more relationship mature than him, so you expect more he is still learning. His friends are females so yes he has an insight of what women want but not the experience. He most likely missed the connection he had with his friends,so in your jealousy you were controlling him. So he did make sacrifice for youin the beginning but he missed his friends. When you received compliments , it seems he didn’t know how to react that he got jealous, another sign of relationship immature, when in fact he should have been proud or happy for you. Sometimes we need to step back and look at why he or she feels or acts a certain way and not assume because they know better. There is still hope with your relationship with him it’s going to take work . One thing I have learned is to lover yourself more ,you can’t love anyone else unless you learn to love yourself.

Dearest X,

First of all I want to say that I completely understand where you’re coming from and I too have made the same mistakes. I’m going to tell you something that might be hard to take, but hear me out. From everything you’ve described I can tell you exactly where it all went wrong. When you got jealous of the other girls instead of trusting him. You were insecure and started nagging him about them. Men hate that. So what if they were texting him, he was WITH you. Just ask him politely to pay attention to you, or even better start showing some skin, and he’ll drop the phone fast. It might have been his first relationship, but he was honest from the start and while you were too, what you taught him was that women are ultimately insecure. I’m going to tell you a secret about men and how to deal with them. You can choose to take my advice or not, but trust me, this works. There are just a few things you need to know first.

All men are selfish, and so are women. It’s human nature. It’s also the male nature to pursue. Now you need to ask yourself if you really want him back. Then you need to come to terms with the fact that it could really be over, even if it hasn’t’ been said yet. That isn’t easy to do, because you keep thinking about him and all the good times you had together. You NEED to do this and be OKAY before you can do what you need to do next. You need to disappear.

Here is the secret. You need to STOP TEXTING OR CALLING HIM!! Wait. Wait. Wait some more. If he truly has feelings for you, he WILL eventually text or call you. It may take a few days, it may take a couple of weeks but you MUST BE STRONG my dear. If he doesn’t, then it truly is over, but if he does, then you have a chance. Don’t let him know you are excited to hear from him. Tell him you’ve been busy and had hardly noticed you hadn’t heard from him. Make HIM jealous. He’ll start wondering what you’ve been up to. It will drive him crazy. If he asks to see you, say you’d love to but then be busy. Don’t blow him off, just have something else going on when he wants to come over. (Don’t tell him you’re just washing your hair and painting your nails – it’s not his business WHAT you’re doing, just that you’re busy) Make him sweat. He will imagine all sorts of things. So what, that’s not your problem. Remember all the reasons you got mad at him.

Don’t make him sweat it out too long though, give him options. Yes, you’re busy Friday night, but you could meet for coffee on Sunday (or something like that). Then be the sweet, loving, funny person he fell for and completely forget about talking about any of the things your argued about. Don’t bring up the past. Leave it. He’s not with those girls, he’s with you. But you’re a busy woman now that you’re not in school. So don’t stay longer then an hour. Have somewhere to be. TRUST ME! He will realize you’re not sitting on the shelf where he left you waiting for him to get back to you. And don’t be. You’re a young, beautiful, vibrant, intelligent woman who can have any man she wants. (Tell yourself this. Say it again. Again!) Because you believe it, so will he and he’ll want that woman back. He won’t want some other man getting the awesome woman that is you!

What will you get out of this? You’ll either get him back or you won’t, but ultimately you’ll feel better about YOU. And truly, that is the only way you will be happy.

Blessings & Love
Jessi