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  • #194357
    Anonymous
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    Dear Katie:

    You wrote that “Often he breaks his promises”- that is a big problem, isn’t it? How can you trust a person who often breaks his promises.

    One benefit of a relationship is to get comfort in it, calm. But how can you be comforted by a man who doesn’t keep his word. I don’t see how that is possible. Can you share a few examples of promises that he broke?

    anita

    #194361
    Katie
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    Hello(:

    Its just little things that he can’t keep to. As in we will organise a movie night for example, and he will plan over it to go out with friends etc. Or i will ask him to do something small for me and he doesn’t, or say we will plan to go somewhere and on the day he decides he doesn’t want to go anymore

    little things like that

    the problem is he doesn’t want to take things seriously he just kinda wants to have fun and do what he wishes and what he pleases

     

    #194381
    Anonymous
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    Dear Katie:

    In your original post you wrote: “he just sits there whilst I cry or tells me I’m ‘too much’ and bring him down”. Unless he is dishonest in this communication, reads to me that indeed, for him, you are too much and you bring him down. But he stays with you because..?

    You wrote: “the problem is he… just kinda wants to have fun and do what he wishes and what he pleases” and you, on the other hand, “like to be productive, driven person ith big goals and aspirations”-

    be it that the two of you have been dating for only a few months, and that you have a solid understanding of who he is at this time in his life, and there is a mismatch, a lack of compatibility, reads to me that indeed you should let him go (title of your thread).

    anita

    #194639
    Mark
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    Katie,

    You stated that It just sucks falling for someone who you know isn’t what is best for you.

    You already *know* that he isn’t what is best for you.

    Women (it’s usually women) have a hard time leaving someone because of the reason “I cannot leave him because I LOVE him.”

    I think of two things, 1) from their Family Of Origin, that kind of person was influential in imprinting what (dysfunctional) love means, 2) this tells me that you don’t know how to love yourself by putting up with such behavior.

    Yet everytime I try and let him go I still get so upset because I know I will miss him a lot

    Getting upset by missing him is one kind of pain.  Being disrespected, unloved, and not connected emotionally because of his immaturity is another kind of pain.  Which one would serve the best of you?  What kind of person you want to be?

    It does take courage.  It is easier to tolerate a known pain rather than go into unknown territory.

    Mark

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