So I’ve been dating this guy for three weeks now. I popped the question first, the ‘what are we doing’ one. I told him that I was looking for something serious but I didn’t want to jump into anything if he didn’t. He is a professional football player which means that we might not survive for long. He warned me that he might receive offers from other clubs throughout the country so he might not stay in the city for long but he said he had long-term long-distance relationships before. He told me to think about it.

On our last date, yesterday, I told him my decision. I wanted to try and he said let’s try it then. It was awkward though: when he showed me a picture on his phone a notification came from a girl. I didn’t see if it was a DM on Instagram or just something not important but it made me feel like he wasn’t serious about getting into a relationship with me. I guess I felt insecure and unsure. I left feeling a bit down.

I mean I’ve got DMs from other guys but I don’t want anything from them at all. I’m not even interested. And the girl from his notifications is very popular and beautiful – no wonder I got so insecure.

I haven’t heard from him since but he said yesterday he was going to go to training today.

I’m just not sure if I should get involved with him or not. I’ve been so hurt so many times and I don’t want to be ‘used’ again. I’m so helpless, I’d just like to hear some advice because I’m not sure what’s the right thing to do. 🙁