She might be my soulmate, but keep hesitating.

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August 22, 2016 at 1:53 am #112978

Anonymous
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Intense strong feeling always end up same ways right? Sooner or later will burn out.
But the soul connected match grows , and intense passion and desire radiates.. your souls connecting from the core to the top that shakes up your whole being. That’s Love! ! !

August 22, 2016 at 1:58 am #112979

Wolfie
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Thank you, it’s nice to hear. And I’ve heard it before. But I do know that if I’d go the distance with anyone, this is the woman I’d be able to with. All logically though. Sure, I don’t lay and stare at her happily (which has happened twice before) but I enjoy life while I’m with her.

That’s true though… I’m just thinking here… but let’s say we start of with burning hot passion, how big are the chances that continues into something as amazing as this? The thing is, I keep coming back. I feel shit for broken up with her that many times. I don’t think about her all the time, quite rarely actually, but I cannot let her go.

I just can’t tell if it’s friendship or love?

August 22, 2016 at 4:12 am #112981

Inky
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Hi wolfie,

It definitely sounds like a soul connection first, friendship second, and romantic love last.

Is there some deadline on marrying her? Would she ever want or pressure you into marrying her?

If not, then I say enjoy this relationship.

And who knows? You might suddenly find that passion for her if she ever breaks up YOU?

Best,

Inky

August 22, 2016 at 4:46 am #112983

Wolfie
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Hmmm… good point. I’m starting to land in the same area. There’s no pressure at all about marriage. Some with her parents and stuff but not all or nothing. So, good point – lets just enjoy it. And I am also to blame I will admit that I forgot to mention: I’ve ever since we met kept my options open. I should just stop, relax and enjoy it. Who knows, maybe the things will grow.

August 22, 2016 at 4:57 am #112984

Wolfie
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Actually, I’m very confused as well. When I close my eyes and just think of her in front of me and her amazing smile I do feel a longing build up fast. I want to be there.

August 22, 2016 at 8:05 am #112990

Anonymous
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Dear wolfie:

In my effort to understand your mind and situation better, I ask: why did you break up with her three times? Same reason the three times? In what context was the breakup, what was her response each time..?

Is she afraid you will break up with her again?

Is there anything about her you dislike

anita

August 22, 2016 at 8:41 am #112992

Amanda
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If you can live without her, then end it (for good).

Respectfully, it’s doing both of you a disservice to stay in a relationship that isn’t going to work out. I’ve been dragged along before, and I lost all fondness for that boy and the relationship we had. I find that I have the most respect for an ex that told me he wanted to break up, where he thought we went wrong, and we ended it amicably.

August 22, 2016 at 9:12 am #112994

Anonymous
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* Amanda: I just posted a comment for you, an “update”.
anita

August 22, 2016 at 11:43 pm #113050

Wolfie
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Same reason all times, but the thing is that there’s a lot hidden here. I’ve had a rough life, and everyone has left me one way or another which MIGHT be why I run as soon as she starts loving me. Maybe she’s not the one for me, maybe I’m just pushing the right one away. I don’t know. But I’m starting to realise that no one will be able to even give me any help. I have to figure this one out myself. And I gotta let my feelings guide me, not my thoughts.

August 22, 2016 at 11:44 pm #113051

Wolfie
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Btw, the context was me saying I’m not attracted enough and she held on tight every time.

August 23, 2016 at 7:59 am #113056

Anonymous
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Dear Wolfie:

If she is a mentally well woman, loving and calm, then she is indeed incredible and you are very fortunate to have this opportunity to heal yourself from the wounds you brought into this relationship. You can heal in the context of the calm, reliable love from this woman, all along being honest with her about your troubles and letting her share with you about hers.

I wrote above: if she is a mentally well woman. If she is, she still has problems, one of which is that she is deeply involved with a man who suffers lack of adequate attraction to her, a man who is unsure about her being the one. I hope she opens up to you about her feelings about the predicament she is in.

Regarding her not being The One and the concept of soul mates: I don’t believe in these terms, in destiny.

Post anytime.

anita

August 23, 2016 at 1:32 pm #113089

Butterfly
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Absolutely. Couldn’t have said it better myself!
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