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  • January 29, 2018 at 7:54 pm #189679
    Christopher
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    hi.

    first time talking about this but I need some help.

    I’m in a 4 year relationship with an amazing woman who loves me so much it hurts some times. But I seem to be stuck trying to contact my ex every few months like an idiot. Why can’t I stop? I’ve never been one for iron clad self control but I’ve been able to never physically cheat on her. It’s just texting my ex that never seems to go away…. please help.

    January 30, 2018 at 4:12 am #189737
    Anonymous
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    Dear Christopher:

    You wrote that your girlfriend loves you “so much it hurts some times”- what about her loving you hurts?

    And what is your motivation when you text your ex girlfriend, what drives you to text her?

    anita

    January 30, 2018 at 5:00 am #189743
    Inky
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    Hi Christopher,

    This ex probably knows a deep aspect of you that not many people do. When someone knows us on a genuine level, it’s hard to let that relationship go. Sure, we can cut contact and end it on a surface-y level. But you will always be connected.

    Of course, people tend to romanticize it.

    Don’t beat yourself up. But maybe tell her “Hey, out of respect for my current relationship, let’s only keep in touch once in a rare moon.”

    Best,

    Inky

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