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  • November 16, 2025 at 6:46 pm #451860
    GoingThroughLife
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    Dear Anita

    Thank you, yes I did read the message, I guess I just want to process everything you wrote because I agree with it.

    Last night I stumbled upon SS instagram profile, she made it public. So naturally after seeing all the my feeling of love, hurt and missing her came back. Trying to process that too.

    Hoping to hear from you friend.

    GoingThroughLife

    November 16, 2025 at 6:59 pm #451861
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Going Through Life:

    I am here, reading your message of exactly.. 13 minutes ago, the hurt, missing her much.. I hear you, dear GTL.

    💜🌱✨ Anita

    November 16, 2025 at 7:07 pm #451862
    GoingThroughLife
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    Dear Anita

    Thank you for listening. I hope you’re well to friend.

    GoingThroughLife

    November 16, 2025 at 7:48 pm #451867
    anita
    Participant

    Thank you, GTL. You are a very kind, Going Through Life 😊 Anita

    November 17, 2025 at 6:40 pm #451886
    GoingThroughLife
    Participant

    Dear Anita

    I hope you’re well friend. I had a good talk with my sister yesterday and she guided me to focus on my future and that she’s just one girl. She said that I know I’m sad that she’s not going to be a part of my life but it is what it is. Anita i have also realised it’s difficult for me to function without a partner sometimes, I need to work on this, i think it’s related to my childhood trauma.

    I hope your day is going well friend.

    Goingthroughlife

    November 17, 2025 at 7:20 pm #451887
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Going Through Life:

    “Anita I have also realised it’s difficult for me to function without a partner sometimes, I need to work on this, I think it’s related to my childhood trauma.”-

    Well, regardless of trauma or not, you are Human, and a social animal, a mammal (I am one too. lol), you naturally need a partner, in one form or another… It’s natural.

    My evening is lonely, but less lonely for talking with you!

    😊 🙏 Anita

    November 17, 2025 at 7:38 pm #451888
    GoingThroughLife
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    Dear Anita

    Thank you for understanding my feelings.

    I hope you get through this lonely night by being with yourself. I’ll be here to listen you talk about your day friend.

    Goingthroughlife

    November 17, 2025 at 7:47 pm #451889
    anita
    Participant

    Thank you, Going Through Life.. good going through this evening (here) with you, good knowing you’re here. I’m listening to music and feeling pretty good right now!

    And you are welcome.. You are a good person, a delight to have in my life to any capacity 😊

    Anita

    November 17, 2025 at 8:22 pm #451890
    GoingThroughLife
    Participant

    Dear Anita

    I’m glad you are enjoying your evening with some great music. Thank you for the compliment, and you’re a good person too, glad to have you part of my life. I need to get on with my day, but I’ll get back to your messages after 12 hours.

    Have a good evening

    Goingthroughlife

    November 17, 2025 at 8:40 pm #451891
    anita
    Participant

    You are welcome, and thank you, Going Through Life! I hope you have a good Tuesday and looking forward to read back from you in 12 hours or so (Mon night here) 🤍 Anita

    November 18, 2025 at 10:19 am #451912
    GoingThroughLife
    Participant

    Dear Anita

    I hope you had a good night and sleep. I had a productive day, worked in the office, followed my diet, went for a jog and practiced my guitar and singing. I feel better.

    Yes I still miss SS a lot and I wonder will i ever find someone else. SS was really good in the 1st year, but due to my attachment style I didn’t open up, I was too late. I don’t know if there will be another chance again.

    Also SS left me saying she wants to enjoy her golden period and she’ll go for arrange marriage down the line, we were not intimate in the last 2 months of the relationship. I miss all that and hate the thought of her getting intimate with someone else.

    Well I needed to vent, thank you for listening friend. I hope to hear about your day.

    Your friend
    GoingThroughLife

    November 18, 2025 at 10:22 am #451913
    GoingThroughLife
    Participant

    Also Anita, I had a weak gut feeling sometimes in the relationship that this wouldn’t work. Strongest one I had 3 months into the relationship when I tried to breakup. But we got back. I don’t know if I should trust this gut feeling or just take it as a random happening.

    November 18, 2025 at 12:39 pm #451917
    anita
    Participant

    Dear friend Going Through Life:

    I had the best sleep in months this last night 🙏 😊 🙏

    Good to read that you are practicing what’s good for you: diet, a jog, guitar and singing 🥗🏃🎸 🎤

    “I still miss SS a lot”- don’t resist or try to suppress this feeling, suppression of emotions lead to them intensifying.

    “I wonder will I ever find someone else”- I can’t imagine there won’t be someone else. Just the way you come across to me, your honesty, your kind attention.. that’s way more than enough to attract another woman to you.

    “I had a weak gut feeling sometimes in the relationship that this wouldn’t work. Strongest one I had 3 months into the relationship when I tried to breakup. But we got back. I don’t know if I should trust this gut feeling or just take it as a random happening.”-

    There is a difference between Gut Feelings and Future Telling. The two are not the same. A gut feeling has a valid message for you, but it doesn’t determine the future. Too many other ingredients determine the future.

    The gut feeling’s message may have been: “I am afraid to get stuck with her”, or “I don’t really like her (although I love her)”, or well.. you tell me 😊..?

    🤍 Anita

    November 18, 2025 at 2:03 pm #451923
    GoingThroughLife
    Participant

    Dear Anita
    I’m really glad you had the such a good sleep.

    Yes, maybe I’ll try to cry a bit again and go to sleep, even though I feel she’s not worth it.

    Thank you for your kind words friend, the funny thing is I never wanted to attract someone else, i thought SS will be the end goal, maybe I couldn’t express SS the same, funny how things turned out.

    Maybe the gut feeling was that I don’t really like her at that time but still I was afraid to be alone, so I continued but with time I got comfortable.

    Should I take it as everything happens for better? What do you say friend

    GoingThroughLife

    November 18, 2025 at 2:24 pm #451924
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Friend Going Through Life:

    I am not very focused at the moment, and I will reply further later, but for now, I’d say: yes, please do take it as what happened (with SS) has been for the better.

    Sincerely, I believe something very good will be happening for you.. with someone else, someone you’ll get to know and like. Neither you nor her will be perfect, but you’d love each other nonetheless 💕 💕 💕

    🤍 Anita

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