Dear Humour:

Thank you and I hope you are having a good day. You vented and also asked for advice.

You wrote: “I have been extremely attached to my family always trying to make ours ‘a happy family. It never happened though. No matter how much I tried, nothing got better.”

When we are attached, when we love people, we want them to be happy, happy that we are in their lives. We want them to see us and smile: glad you are in my life!

Not only your presence made no difference to your mother, father, family-of-origin but all your efforts made no difference. It was never a happy family. All your efforts were futile., no return on investment.

The change I hope you have as you get married this year, is that you will make a difference to your family of choice, that he/ they will be happy simply because you are there. And your efforts will carry a good return on investment. How lovely it would be to make the lives of loved one good by being in their lives!

As difficult as it may be to abandon investments that carry no return, abandon those investments and keep “remind(ing yourself) that they have to walk their journey”- be it a 100 mile journey or standing in place.

And walk your journey.

anita

Dear humour:

You are welcome. “Should (have) been a happy healthy individual at my age”- age doesn’t change a person, the actual time going by. It is the work we do during the time. I do hope you experience more joy and fun, and healthy relationships… with people capable of having healthy relationships.

anita