Dear E:

I think that you are very anxious, that your anxiety is significantly high, and when that happens, nothing feels right. When we are too anxious, we don’t have the calm space that is required to feel love and attraction, instead, everything feels wrong.

So the thing to  do  is to reduce your anxiety. The thing not to do is to go to the ROCD forums, all that does is maintain your anxiety, keep your anxiety going and going.

It really doesn’t matter if you feel love or attraction for your boyfriend at this time; so what if you don’t- you’ve been in a relationship with him for only four months and of these four months, because of the pandemic, you didn’t see him for a whole month (25% of the duration of the relationship). It is not like you are married with children and lost your feelings for him, worrying about divorce, splitting assets and co-parenting.

Back to my earlier suggestion: you will need to find ways to lower your anxiety. Are you engaged in daily exercise of some sort?

anita

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