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  • #63913
    popi
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    Hello,i feel you because i was in the same situation.All you have to do is to build self-confidence.
    When we are in a relationship we feel jealous of someone or that we’ll lose our partner (girl,boy )
    This comes from inside.No matter what he/she offers to us we feel insecure that maybe one day we’ll not be good enough
    for the person we love and he/she will abandon us.You need to feel happy inside you,make things that can make you feel better (when you feel insecure).
    Remember that when we feel that we may lose the person we love, he/she sees it, understands it.
    I don’t suggest you to hide your feelings ,but try to make good thoughts about yourself and not you’re not good enough..
    Unfortunately in my past relationship my ex understood that i was super insecure and jealous of his class-mate,friend,or ex.
    This is your hypothesis and it’s not his fault,neither yours anyway,but you have to do the job for yourself!
    Last tip is that nobody is nobody’s…so when you think abou it you may be more calm and secure..

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 8 months ago by popi.
    #63923
    didi2136
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    Don’t worry. You’re not alone. I feel the same way, even that I know that my boyfriend loves me and I love him. The problem is when you love someone, that person can really hurt you and you feel vulnerable. All you need is to trust and do your best. If that person really loves you, will be there for you. If don’t, life goes on. No matter what happens, you need to feel that you’re unique and you will be fine!

    #64004
    Inky
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    Two things:

    1. Nine times out of ten, a real man won’t be with you unless he really WANTS to be with you!

    2. If he’s younger and still playing the field, you should be able to pick up on that energy right away.

    So which is it? Your insecurities from inside or you picking up that there is someone else in the wings?

    It is probably you. But, banish the “I’m not good enough” thought as he will soon feel that energy as well. Who gave you the message in your past that you weren’t good enough? What trauma happened?

    What can help is shutting down all media. For example, beauty: Who needs to see skinny beautiful girls with schlubby guys, or fashion mags with young teens impersonating gorgeous women? Or watching 50 hours of Netflix on the adventures of someone a size 00? Same with success.

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 8 months ago by Inky.
    #64013
    chelsea
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    wow, i feel like i wrote this post. I CAN TOTALLY RELATE. i just think we have to work on our self-confidence. my dad has never been apart of my life and so i translated that as “i’m not good enough” and it’s definitely STUCK. i wish i could get over it. i’m thinking about getting some counseling. i feel like i’m driving my bf crazy haha.

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