Hi lost in the wild,

She won’t hurt herself. She won’t kill herself. She’s just threatening that as emotional leverage. Because guess what? Once you block her online, change your phone number, etc., etc…. Once she has no way of contacting you, she will fly into a rage, but won’t harm herself because you’re not around to even know about it.

This woman is very unstable, selfish and abusive. It’s a good thing you are far away.

Nothing creates distance like distance. Block her everywhere, and mentally detach, detach, detach.

Good Luck,

Inky

Dear lost in the wild:

I second Inky.

You wrote that right at the beginning of this long distance relationship, “She convinced me, threatened me saying she would die without me”- that was before there was a relationship, before you supposedly used her for emotional support, before she invested her time, correct?

She threatened suicide as a way to get you into the relationship and now she threatens it as a way to keep you in it.

You wrote: “She also told many other lies ,many of which she herself confessed to only recently”- problem is, when we hear the same lies over and over again (perhaps during her emotional rants which you mentioned), we start believing them. We get confused, we know on some level that these are  lies but we believe them because of the repetition and emotion in which they are said.

I think that your challenge is to see the reality of this woman and this relationship as it is. Post again anytime.

anita

Dear lost in the wild:

You are welcome. It is a good thing that you don’t have to go back to her.  To make it easier for you to not go back to her, it is better that you block all forms of communication with her. The reason for this need is that her lies, told repeatedly and with strong emotion, has convinced part of you that you are guilty of what you are not and that she is … somehow telling you the truth. To not encourage this false belief, better put a stop to any further input by her that will continue to encourage such false belief.

anita