Hi There!

This is from experience:

1. Long distance relationships are tough. No matter how close you are, there will always be an element of each person living in totally different parallel universes. His Parallel/Alternate universe took over his brain.

2. Yes, you contacted him a little too much, too soon, with way too much emotion. The only remedy for that is to back way the h*** off!! The more he doesn’t have to respond to you, the more time he will spend wondering about the mystery of your sudden disappearance!

3. You are close to his relatives. Close as in you see them/visit? Make sure you bring a date/guy friend/male cousin who’s a good actor. Or mention a nickname (connotes intimacy). Or post a pic online. When they ask about him shrug say, “I don’t know about him yet. I feel like I just broke up with Old Boyfriend. We’ll see.” The phones will be ringing!

4. If you are on social media, after a few months post pics of you looking a little different dressing in a different style. He’s not the only one changing and moving on!

5. When he contacts you again (they always do, mine always did, even years later!) wait a few days to respond. This will be difficult.

That’s all I got. Good luck!

P.S. All the above said, once you get a new boyfriend, YOU will be the one that got away in his mind!

I had been in this situation, hoping that ex will be back.. but truth is we can not force anyone to change their mind. They themselves will have to realise whether they want you or not. If you still want him back, write an email or letter explaining your prespective and what the relationship means to you. What efforts you would like to put.. and send to him.This should be your last attempt. But, mind you don’t expect that something positive will happen. If he feels that he should try to contact you then he will.. or else he will not. But, you will have to accept that you need to move on..thats the only way you can live and expect better future for yourself.

I’m sorry for hearing that. It really sucks. I guess at this point no matter what you say, he won’t take it. The fact is that he knows you miss him, but he deliberately ignore you. Don’t hold any hope, move on. The fate will come naturally. My story was that we engaged, we broke up. I kept changing myself in the 2 months after our breakup, holding the hope that the new me will attract her again. But after 2 months, I got the news that she got a new boyfriend. I was totally freaked out. I shouldn’t hold any hope. Now i’m suffering great pain again. I tried the same thing as you did, but she replied that what I did just let her feel more disgusting. So please calm down. Get back to your own track. The only chance is that he wants you back in the future. Unfortunately you can do nothing to let him want except that you keep moving on. When the chance comes in the future, you may catch it. But don’t hold any hope. Life is cruel. I’m so regretted now but I can’t get back to the past. You can only look forward.

Hey Albana,
I know exactly how you are feeling now. It’s heart broken and despair. Despite everything you did, he just treated you like this. Stop showing your weakness to him anymore. It’s because you need him desperately (you fly to his place and make an apologize, which is costly economically and emotionally) that you push him further away. So he just looks down you, taking all your efforts as something irrationale and immature.

I think your msg was nothing wrong. All of these didn’t come from a wrong msg. I will recommend you to talk with your parents. They will support you in any way. Venting to your parents will make you feel better. Just remember your parents will always back on you. At this moment your parents will comfort you. Even if in the future, when things turns around and you two come back together, your parents will always support your decision. As for your bday, have fun with your friends and don’t count on his wishes……I was hurt last month on my bday. Wish you good luck. You will feel better with the time going by.

Hey Albana,
I’m glad that you feel a little bit better now. You’re right, if you really decide to move on, just cut every possible way that can make u reach him or vice versa. I know it’s really, really hard. Because you loved him, and you two shared so much memories, many minor things in your life will even make you remind him. Today when I went to brew a coffee, i would remember how she brew coffee for me in the past. It’s tough. But believe me, we both will get over it.
I’m facing the same question as yours since my ex ‘s bday is coming in 2 weeks. As yesterday she texted me that do not bother her anymore with a very cold tone, i decide i will not contact her in any ways. Whether or not wish him is up to you, but I feel you shouldn’t. After all, it won’t change anything. The earlier you move on, the sooner you get better.