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  • March 3, 2018 at 1:51 am #195771
    foofoobunny
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    Hi Annya!

    Please don’t beat yourself up too much. You didn’t mean to hurt him!

    He might have thought that you weren’t interested that’s why he chooses to bolt nowadays. If you really like him and/ or care about him, just try to reach out to him (tell him you need to talk to him right before class starts, so he won’t run straight out afterwards) and explain what happened in the way that you explained here.

    Hope it works out!

    March 3, 2018 at 3:39 am #195787
    Eliana
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    Hi Annya,

    I always feel honesty is the best policy, and I am sure he would understand if you told him, you really wanted to, but you were caught off guard, nervous that day, distracted by your friend and that you would really enjoy getting a cup of coffee with him and going somewhere to talk. If the place you most often see him is in class, or before class, I would ask him then, or give him your phone number and ask him to call you as you would still be interested in meeting, and you are sorry about what happened the first time. If he is an understanding man, I am sure he will appreciate your honesty. The reason he is darting out of class, is because he might be feeling awkward after being rejected.

    March 4, 2018 at 4:45 am #195833
    Inky
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    Hi Annya,

    A simple confession of “I’m bad at this” covers a lot of ground.

    Just say you get anxious in impromptu/sudden situations and you always seem to come off the wrong way. That you hope he didn’t misread you. That that wasn’t your intention! (At this point he should be comforting you, No, of course not! Don’t worry about it!) Then tell him you’re going to get coffee and does he want to come along.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    March 4, 2018 at 7:39 pm #195899
    CBD
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    Hi Annya,

    i think you might be overthinking. How do you know if you hurt him? You say you are awkward (we all are in certain situation) but he may be a bit shy and awkward too. If I were you I wouldn’t worry about it and ask him to go get coffee next time you see him. If you are afraid he’ll bolt too quickly ask him before class…or go all grade school on him and pass him a note that simply says “wanna get coffee? I guess what I’m saying is dont make this more difficult than it is. I have agonized over things far too often and then took a shot at it and all turned out and I wondered why I agonized in the first place. Just ask him, if he says yes great, if he says no then you can forget about and move on…im betting you’ll get yes. GO FOR IT!

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