Hi There! I answered this in your comments, but glad you put it on a Forum!

To put a visual spin on this: The other week my son and I saw turkeys. It was mating season. The cob was all decked out in his finery. He looked half as big as the car, his feathers glistening with purple, blue and black highlights. He was shaking, rattling and cackling, long pinfeathers dragging melodically on the pavement.

“OK,” I said out loud, already bored. “Where is she? Where’s the hen?”

And then She appeared (this would be you LOL). Long-legged, slender, elegant, poking around for seeds.

The cob went crazy. More display.

Cars were honking and weaving around us.

Cob didn’t care.

And neither did she. I honestly, truly think she was 100% just looking for seeds. It wasn’t an act. She just didn’t care.

Look, if, in Mother Nature itself, which is a perfect reflective blueprint of The Universe, the females during Mating Season, THE Mating Season, don’t care, It’s OK!! You don’t have to be interested right now. There is no Cosmic Law, no Noah’s Ark. Just hang out. Eat seeds! It is perfect no matter what or who you choose or don’t choose!

I Promise!!! 🙂

• This reply was modified 10 years, 5 months ago by Inky.

Thank you Inky and Matt for your amazing replies.

Hey Sojourner,

I felt a little confused reading your post and had to read it a few times to understand your question. I will provide my perspective, which may or may not agree with you today.

Hey, when you need to have a shower, take a dump, have breakfast or wear a particular dress, do you seek anyone’s permission or validation ? I suspect your answer is going to be no. Then, why do you need an outside light on this issue ?

You seem like a very sensible and mature lady from the post and you seem to know the answers to your queries as well. What is the real reason behind writing this post ?

When you couldn’t find the right person in the guy you dated for 2 years, how do you expect to find the right person by just testing the waters ? Sometimes, to find the right answers, we need to take a deep dive into our hearts and mind to understand what it is that we seek. Similarly, to find the right partner or companion, you need to go through some not so compatible partners. Until we try different types of food to decide which suits our own tastebuds or sense of smell, how can we be so sure that a certain food is not to our liking just by looking at it ? And who decides the rule as to what is wrong or right in this world anyway ? Who decides if someone or something can stand the test of time ?

I personally think at this age, you should be able to enjoy your life as and how you want it to be – no one is watching you lady. You are your own boss and whatever you do will be for your best 🙂

May you find the real answer that your heart seeks.

Cheers

J

Thanks Sojourner.

Ok. If it is the sign you are looking for, lets make it easier for you. NO, you are not over your loss as yet. When you are over your loss, you will know it and you wont need to ask anyone for the sign then :). I personally think you need to move on from this ex-relationship to find what your heart seeks.

All is well. Take your time and stay well / happy.

You are worth it all.

Jasmine

What helped me, and I truly believe this is what did it (all three or one? who knows?):

1. I wrote a prayer for a family and put it in the Western Wall in Jerusalem.

2. I wrote a list of 30 things ~ qualities/looks/hobbies/religious belief/political belief/geography etc. of my ideal mate. Wouldn’t you know it, looking back, DH was pretty much everything on the list!

3. I did an Enchantment. Before I met Anybody, I wrote a rhyming poem and put it under a quartz crystal and a red rose under a full moon. Incense, candles. I put in a Call. The Universe answered.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 5 months ago by Inky.

Ha Ha Inky, you are just so funny :). Thanks. We must be having a telepathy. Wrote the message at the same time. 636 pm lol

Inky, Jasmine, you guys are the best. I actually am happy staying single. I told my friend I would be open to dating though. To both of you, the advice you gave me is profound. Inky, I will do all of the things you suggested and write it down in one of my many notebooks (laughs). Same with you, Jasmine. I can tell that you’re both females. Jasmine is a girls name and you said bloke, which means you’re from Australia. Awesome. Inky, you said DH, which means darling husband. Women unite! My confidence is here once again. I’m remaining that way. Thank you, both, and live, laugh, love.