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  • August 8, 2014 at 1:11 am #62869
    The Ruminant
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    I guess then someone needs to tell Clapton, Jagger and Bowie that they’re not allowed to be musicians anymore! 😉

    I think that there is a bit of a misconception of what “growing up” means. Being realistic and rational does not mean not having dreams and not enjoying things in life that do not directly contribute to having stuff. If music lights up your soul and makes you happy, then for goodness sake, live it! I’m also pretty sure that there are other people of all ages who feel the same way and would want to collaborate with you. So if that’s your thing, then do it.

    What I would see as an immature point of view would be to want to be in a band because you’d want to look younger than you are or that you would want to be famous so that you could get attention. I.e. trying to manipulate the world so that you would feel better about yourself. That would be immature. To feel good about yourself is something that is down to you to accomplish, instead of dreaming of a future where you’d magically become this person that everyone admires. And to feel good about yourself is to allow yourself to do things that make you feel alive. It is your responsibility to live and shine as the person that you are.

    People have jobs that aren’t their calling and still manage to live a happy life and do things that they really like to do
financed by the job that isn’t their calling. It’s not “either/or”. Besides if you are a really good musician, you can have that as a job as well. But to go into that with the expectation of instant fame would be silly.

    August 8, 2014 at 4:56 am #62873
    Inky
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    There’s a huge myth out there that if you were The Real Deal, it would Just Happen, that you wouldn’t need a real job ~ that as a matter of fact, a real job gets in the way. That playing music at night or on the weekends is just a Hobby. That if you quit your real job, the record deal would come through as a Sign from your Sacrifice of Banal Commitment.

    Hogwash.

    I know a guy who played, usually as a backup, with several famous groups back in the 70s. Yes, the bands got The Deal. Yes, at one point he became quasi-famous. But now he is at least 60 and, yes, spent the 90s living on the girlfriend’s couch, LOL. No one remembers him. But guess what? He is still jammin’! I have no idea what he does IRL.

    My point is, you may never get The Deal. And even if you got The Deal, it is really (usually) a flash in the pan. And you will always have to do what needs to be done IRL, whether you’re a grown up or not!

    Like, my DH wanted to be an Olympic sailor. Never happened. But now he sails with The Masters (old folk fleet LOL) on the twelve weekends weather allows. As you know, it’s not just the success. Or the fame. It’s really about the lifestyle and the camaraderie.

    So find like minded others (internet) in your area, and keep making music!!

    • This reply was modified 10 years, 9 months ago by Inky.
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