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    MGrant
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    The other night my husband told me that I don’t do anything. After saying that he walked out the room and left to go down the street to his cousin’s house. When I called and asked him what did he mean, he didn’t say anything. It really and truly hurt my feelings because I work a fulltime job and take care of the kids and home. I don’t have the most glamorous job, but its a job and it allows me to pull my weight around the house. I feel like I do more than my part to help with the bills and everything else around the house. His comment made me feel as if I am worthless in his eyes. I pretend to everyone around me that I’m this strong woman and that nothing bothers me when in reality, I have a very low self esteem. A while ago, my husband was drinking a little too much, he told me that he could have been with a teachers and nurses. ( I guess instead of pathetic old me). When he told me that I don’t do nothing, it immediately brought back what he said about the other women he could have been with but turned down for me. I’m very emotional right now to the point where I just want to give up on this marriage. I tired of hearing him subtlety putting me down. We been married for 17 years and I have never once talked down to him or about him. I really need some encouragement or advice. thanks.

    #67002
    Inky
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    ***Hugs***

    I’m sorry you’re going through this. For what it’s worth, when he says stuff like “I could have had this teacher or that nurse ~ but I chose you,” dollars to donuts he’s going through his Midlife Crisis talk. Also, in a weird butt-headed way he’s trying to make you feel grateful and appreciate you have him!

    You seem very sensitive (I am too) but what would happen if you made a little joke about it. Like, “Well, Babe, I don’t mean to brag, but there was this police officer and plumber in my past. I didn’t bring it up because I didn’t want you to freak out. But you seem more confident now a days, so I’m glad we can laugh about it.” ;)Then next time you two are out, if you see one, go right up to a police officer and make small talk! Then say, “Oh, that was Bob.” LOL

    Or say when he says that, “Well, since I’m not doing anything I think I’ll go to the spa.” And go!! Pavlov’s dog says that he will stop with the putdowns when he sees the household money disappear every time he does that.

    You can give him little Honey Do Lists. Then when he doesn’t do them say, “That’s OK Honey I know how you do everything around here, so I hired a handyman to help you out.” Watch him spring into action to get it done!

    Another good one is paying in cash and have anonymous roses sent to you. You will thank him profusely and he will be all, “What The???” If he says he didn’t send them be all, “Yeah, right. Then who did??” and be all lovey dovey the rest of the day!

    OK, that’s my advice, and I hope you at least get a good laugh out of all the ideas!! 🙂

    #67006
    Peace
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    Rip his clothes off tonight and his attitude will change quickly. Men are not hard to figure out. Feed them and F them. Sounds like you got the feeding part down. Stuff a burger in him and a drink. Close the deal tonight and tell us tomorrow how that worked out for you.

    #67087
    girl
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    I was recently dating a person who wanted to know about my past an my flaws how i was when i was hurt lonely an so on i had done a few irresponsible things an i was not proud of them i came clean after he went threw my things an i told him all an more he continued to ask about my past because he said he wanted to trust me but he never truly said he did he recently broke up with me after I went to a male friends house he played a game on me an said im am just a whore. an then he continued on saying he never wanted to be in a relationship with me it hurts so bad an i feel like he so used an brought down by seeing his ways to point out my flaws an hurt me with them an how he never has any remorse or understanding that was my past
    I am interested an want the relationship to work i want him in my life i enjoyed our togetherness an trusted him with my hope feeling sexual connection an more just to be after a 2months shot down an stabed an broken he says he wants to continue being friends an i feel as if he just wants to use me an have no compassion an is truly hurtful after the bond we build an were working on a relationship together an he said he wanted to have me as his gf an then to turn an leave me in a pile of my own flaws an say im too flawed i feel horrible i gave all my all an then to just get spite on i am crying i feel like i just gave up my deepest darkest secrets an he just hurt me with them,I know he wanted this to work but in ways he is truly a negative an hurtful saying he just being real an how he isnt going to get played an how he doesn’t want to let me in because i m a joke.
    i cant be in a relationship i am just a whoe an thats why u have no female friends an your a liar.

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