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April 2, 2018 at 8:13 am #200525
Jerry
ParticipantHi Anita,
Thanks for the reply. My relationship with my wife is good, but our communication has shut down a bit over the years. It’s not really her that’s the issue though; it’s mainly me and my difficulties communicating. I’ve felt myself shut down to communication almost as a whole; I can’t seem to form the words I want to in conversations, so they often fall flat of my desires. Sometimes I have an easier time just talking to people I don’t know as well… but that doesn’t always work either. I guess it’s just something I really need to work on.
J
April 2, 2018 at 8:45 am #200533Anonymous
GuestDear Jerry:
I think I understand your situation better: I think that you are indeed stuck, most accurate word.
Stuck and powerless to free yourself from this prison cell, so to speak, where you have been in for years. As you made the logical decisions, to make enough money to support your family and the many other decisions for the benefit of your family, you turned in the keys to your freedom and you find yourself stuck, or imprisoned. You turned in your creativity, your dreams, the part of you that lived.
What remains is this deadness that continues to exist within the boundaries of dry logic.
What to do when every possible solution to this entrapment is met by refuting logic?
How about moving to a very small house in a very quite place, a little town, maybe outside a city limit, where living expenses are very low, taking a job as an elementary school teacher, a school where behavior is okay, on the part of the students, where you can be creative, even share a few poems with the students?
A happy father is much more logical for the well being of your children than more money. Sure you and your wife have to make enough money, but.. just enough.
And teaching elementary school (or higher, as long as students’ behavior is okay) does not require more schooling, or if it does, then it is something you can do gradually while teaching, take classes here and there while working, or during summer recess.
anita
April 2, 2018 at 12:29 pm #200561Mark
ParticipantBeing stuck in a job that drains you? I can relate Jerry.
How to move into something that you enjoy? Good question.
Check into what Side Hustle is.
Despite not having energy to do much after your job, this is essential if you want to do something with your life rather than end up at the end of your life looking back and wondering what sort of life you actually did live. Plus you need to set an example for your children rather than sticking to something that drains you.
I don’t know if there is a magic formula to create an economically sustainable job of passion but you have to start with the first step to *something.* A hobby that may (or may not) turn into something that can eventually replace your current job or supplement it. The thing is you have to first start with something of interest and nurture that. If nothing else, an activity that emotionally is satisfying.
Mark
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