Dear  Dodhia,

Based on your article its well clear but one thing you need to do is by STUDY THE CASE OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP again why is your biological father rejecting this young man from marrying you. How long have been with this young man?  As in the course of your courtship ?? ? As per your father disagreeing with you and he had warn you about your boyfriend! !!! Use inside the mirror ! I mean try to forgive yourselves first since you said in your post ,,,  you ain’t close to your father.  Can you glance at anyone who is a friend to your father to convince him!  Therefore he/she will be your meditator or called it go between.

Otherwise there is this thing which is common to all human ,,, when you are rich,  then your daughter must be marriage by the rich man.

Nevertheless,  don’t try to force yourself in this relationship when your parents rejected your boyfriend that you had choose. If you do so than you will be like a drowning man that no one to catch his arm in the water.  There is a reason why your dad doesn’t want this man.

Can you try to give us a list of how your dad doesn’t want this marriage to go a head.

I will be glad to see you have when you do what is necessary that I had put here.

IAll the best.

Gregory

Dear dodhia:

I don’t see how you can convince your father because as you wrote, “My father and I have never been close”. Reads to me that even if your boyfriend owns a home and no longer lives in a rented apartment, your father has other reasons to object the union, different castes, somewhat different religion … and he might bring up new reasons if he needs to.

You wrote: “My father, has threatened me that if I continue to date him or get married to him he will disown me and kick me out of the house… He has threatened that he will hurt the man I love and there is no one he listens to in this world. He listens to himself only”-

– I don’t see how you can possibly convince him. “He listens to himself only”- maybe if you arranged for him to receive a great amount of money, maybe he will reconsider, because lots of people will listen to money. If you had the money, of course, you could say: look father, look here, 1 million dollars. You can have this money if you agree to the union. That may work. If not, 10 million dollars..?

You wrote: “I am the only child and I just can not walk out of their lives”-

– you are your father’s only child and he can kick you out of the house and disown you. He said so.

Maybe it is not such a bad thing that he disowns you, if you can see to it that he doesn’t carry his threat to hurt your boyfriend/ perhaps future husband?

anita

dodhia

If you decide to marry this man then perhaps you can do this in steps. You can move out of your fathers place and live on your own for a while. You still can continue to see this person who you want to marry but not marry him yet. This way you can continue have a relationship and have this engagement period. This will also help you learn to become more independent. You won’t be under the thumb of your father and you can create your own sense of self while living on your own.

Mark

Dear dodhia:

What does “That’s it” mean?

* I will be away from the computer for a while.

anita

Dear dodhia:

If you live under the authority of a man (your father) who is unreasonable, will not consider your thoughts and feelings, insisting that you do as he says, otherwise he will kick you out of his house, a man who is mean to his wife (your mother) and to you, the thing to do is to escape his authority and move out and away.

anita