Dear Lindsey:

“I do not want my anxiety to take away from my happiness”- unfortunately that is what anxiety does, it takes away from pleasure and joy. So expect it, because anxiety does that.

“I don’t want my anxiety to get in the way”- you can do something about this part, that is, when you feel anxious, and no matter what your anxiety is telling you, you can still act reasonably. You can still be in control of what you do. Practically today, don’t text him for the next 4 hours. Evaluate after the four hours. Let’s see, it is 1:20 pm your time as you read this, so no texting before 5:20, and re-evaluate at 5:20.

Does this make sense to you?

anita

Dear Lindsey:

That’s no problem, that you texted him Happy Friday. That was a nice, friendly, very short text. Now don’t text him for the next 4 hours (it can be 3 hours or 5, whichever number fits you).

anita

Dear Lindsey:

It’s okay to feel sad. Let it be, the sadness. And keep me posted.

anita

Dear Lindsey:

You rode the wave meaning you didn’t text him. But he texted you. Excellent job on your part and you kept me posted, just like you said you will. (You keep your word and follow through with what you say, I like that).

anita

Dear Lindsey:

I am wondering if K uses drugs, which may explain his lack of consistency. What do you think?

anita

Dear Lindsey:

Maybe he is on drugs even though you didn’t see him high. I suggested before that he is troubled. There is a reason why he is not dependable, why he changes unpredictably.

anita

Dear Lindsey:

It is not healthy for anyone to have a relationship with an unpredictable person, someone you can’t depend on to act on any day similar to the day before. But for an anxious person such as yourself, it is very unhealthy. It increases anxiety. You get your hopes up, then get disappointed. Not good.

anita