Anita,

any type of contact is not a good idea.  He’s a introverted narcissist. There will be no kindness from him.  I’m getting there slowly lol.

lindsey

Please give your input.  All I can come up with is i don’t want anything awkward at work so I’m going to try and forgive you for your texting remarks and behaviors.  I should not have started this at all.

Ok. Well we were together about 3 months.  I was still living with my ex husband in a coparenting type of environment that had been going on for  a year and half prior.  I’ve worked in the same department with him for 2 years.  I would see him in random places like target and at the mall.  He seemed nice we would chat and I started to get interested but didn’t really hit on him for 6 months.  Then we started Skyping at work then texting for a few weeks.  We didn’t go out on dates bc we live in a small town and I was still living at home and didn’t want people knowing or seeing us together plus we did not want anyone at work knowing anything especially sense my ex also works for the same company it’s a big company . I would go to his house and eat dinner play with his dog watch movies etc.  we talked quite a bit about life.  About 3 weeks in he said hey I really like you and didn’t expect this to happen but it really can’t go anywhere my kids are grown and your kids are really young and I’m done raising kids.  I was a bit confused bc in the beginning we both made it clear we were not looking for girlfriend/boyfriend type thing.  After that he slowly started to pull away and I got lots of anxiety and worry and started second guessing texts and everything else.  So I say to him I want to casually date and go places.  He said let me think about it. About 2 weeks later he texted  me and said “probably not” on dating  bc we r in 2 very difficult places and want different things and He doesn’t  date.  He said he has not dated anyone in 3 years since his divorce but casually saw 2 women.   So I have a break down which was the weekend of valentines and my 40th b day.  A week later I Skype him at work and ask to talk with him I go over to his house later and basically say I want things back to how they were.  After that he started to just be rude in general with texting.  2 weeks later I sent him a text with let’s to something Saturday and he got smart asking “why” twice. I got mad and he was MIA for about an hour text wise I texted him 2x called once and it went straight to vm. He then texted going off on how he was talking to his daughter who was more important than me and that “ more often than not when he saw me texting him his stomach would turn down instead of up.”  I tried to calm down the situation and asked to call him to explain my anxiety etc but he wouldn’t answer.  I said that I felt awful by how he was texting and acting.  I said obviously I have issues from my marriage which he knew some of it.  Then he just said he knew I had issues and would pray for me and that we were just in completely different places in life and that I shouldn’t feel awful about anything and said goodnight.  I never answered and deleted his number and the texts.  I’ve ran into him once face to face and I had a disgusted look on my face and looked at his chest as he had to walk around me.