Hmm, that’s a tough one as you are wanting him to go against his nature. What me, myself and I would do is go Random.

(It looks like I’m @Jasmine-3’s comedy relief, so here goes ;))…..

1. Take a playing card deck. Shuffle. Draw. Most important rule ~ Don’t tell him you are playing!!!
2. Spades are Disappear/Radio Silence Days. Number cards are days. i.e. Jacks are 11, Aces 1
3. Hearts are Love Days. 2s are mere hand holding, Aces are XXX, fill in the blanks in-between 😉
4. Clubs are Bonding Days. Do bonding type activities. 2s are a mere two word text up to Kings Deep Talks
5. Diamonds are Out and About Days. 2 coffee shops, up to Kings ~ Diamond shopping!

Between the hot and cold, the disappearing acts, wild intensity, whatevery feelings, the guy will, *SHOULD* go nuts!! He will flee in confusion or terror. OR he will track you down when you’ve been gone for ten days and ravish you!!

Variety is the spice of life to stoke his fire!

Good Luck,

Inky

Ha ha Inky. Bless your soul. I am sitting in a cafe hoping to finish a report before lunchtime but my heart is not in it. Your posts are much more fun and made me laugh so loud that everyone around me is probably left with a thought – I will have what she is having. As it is, I am a giggle machine lol.

Thank you my friend. To be able to take things lightly n put a smile on someones face are 2 awesome attributes to have. We can all do with a friend like you.

Hope Jacqueline can take the fun bits and spice up her life 😉

Hi Jacqueline,

I understand what you’re saying. You are desired by him, but he’s not showing it enough. You want to be pursued sometimes. This is entirely healthy and right of you in my opinion. Also this is potentially a touchy or embarrassing subject so I understand how you wrote your post.

I have a question: could he be afraid of you rejecting him? How does he handle rejection? I can relate to this one… although not so much in an exclusive relationship.

Another question: is he on a different page than you on frequency? That is, if you want to be together more frequently than he does. I ask because I was in a relationship where she made the first move more frequently vs. where I was. Without sharing TMI, in essence I never/rarely got a chance to make the first move. This became an issue with us so I know communication and openness are crucial. If this is at all possible, that you are “this much” and he’s “this much minus N,” (not that this is math) what if you wait a while and see what he does? The other question is: is he really passionate? He may be slow to make the first move, but 100% passion can be all the cure.

Big blue

Jacqueline, forgive me for being judgmental, but is this the same guy from your other post? He was a former flame from high school with whom you were getting together for the first time in years this past weekend. How is it, that only a week later you are “exclusively dating” and you’re already trying to change him? Is it possible that this just isn’t a good match? If you’re basing your entire perception of him on one weekend, which was essentially one long first date, don’t you think you’re jumping to conclusions a bit? I would suggest you let the relationship organically develop and see how you like it. Enjoy the ride. You are in the early stages of dating, just getting to know each other and your behaviors.