Amma,

I’m so so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain and grief you are going through. I hope you get through this tragic time in whatever way you can, rely on extended family and friends, anyone that can support you both through this difficult time.

My thoughts are with you and I’m sending as much warmth to you as I can. I’m so sad for you. In the weeks and months to come, this is a good forum to help with advice and support. There is always someone at the end of the keyboard.

S x

Amma,

You may still be in shock, but you will process it in time. It’s an horrific time for your family.

One thing I will say is this……it is not your fault. He seemed to have his mind made up and I don’t want you to experience extra suffering by going over and over what you could have done. But I completely understand how difficult that might be for you right now.

Try to be around people who care about you and talk whenever you need to. I’m so sorry.

Wow. Sending you love in a difficult time. xx

Amma,

I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. Suicide is an extremely complex type of loss and I know the emotions that come with it. I lost my mother to suicide. I hope you know you are not alone and there is so much help out there for you and your mother while you grieve. AFSP.org has many resources- especially for a new loss. They also have support groups, and yearly survivor day meetings which have helped me immensely. If there is anything I can help you with please dont hesitate to reach out. Again, my heart is with you and your family.

Amma,

My deepest sympathies to you and your family. I lost my best person, who was like a brother to me, 2 years ago on Nov. 30. I was the one who found him. I know all to well what your going through, and I am truly sorry.  There is nothing I can say that will take your pain away, but know someone out there understands what you’re going through.

I truly believe that suicide is a decision a person makes long before it happens. I think of my friend everyday. I think about the months leading up to that day and what I could/should/would have done differently. I will admit i, too, sometimes think “if I” but it would not have changed anything.  It is so difficult to understand because most of the time we are left to try and understand something we can not.

Be kind to yourself while you mourn the loss of your brother. Let yourself feel whatever it is because it’s what you need to feel in order to heal. For me, there was a period of recluse because it was all I was capable of at the time. Talking to someone, or in a support group, is a good idea. There are alot of resources out there. Try looking on the suicide prevention website… I think there’s a link that uses your location to find groups near you.

Along your healing journey, there will be moments that you will find yourself smiling and thinking of your brother because of a smell, or song, or even something silly like a receipt. These times will remind you of him or something you shared. Embrace it because I believe those moments are messages from our loved ones meant for us to help us heal.

It has helped my journey.  Xo