Dear soma:

Good to read from you 4  months and 9 days after you last posted here. I hope that 2023’s lows will not be as low and that the highs.. will not be as high (Moderation is key) as in 2022! Thank you for your good wishes, I very much appreciate it that you chose to post here today, Happy New Year to you, my beloved friend soma!

anita

Hey back to you, Dear soma:

I don’t know if you are following the activity on your thread, it being almost a month since you posted the above (I did not participate in the forums at the time). Please let me know if you are reading this post and I will reply to you further.

anita

 

Dear soma:

Good to read from you! You started your thread on April 2, 2021, two years and five+ months ago. You were then in high school, two years or so to graduation, studying in one of the best high schools in Turkey. You were very anxious at the time, “anxious all around the clock“,  stressed about the high expectations people had of you “to have a great career”.

Fast forward to your post before last, that of Aug 18, 2023- a month and 2 days ago- you shared that your summer was pretty good, that you did very well in the exam you took, the one that would determine your career, ranking 28,000 among the 3,000,000 young people who took it. You were hoping therefore to attend an amazing university.

*                                    C o N g R a T u L a T i O n  S        S  o  M  a   !   !    !

You also shared that after a one year separation from your boyfriend, a year of “many sleepless nights.. many tears“, you got back with him three months earlier (May 2023), loving him “sooo much to a point where it’s kinda scary.. I am scared of ever losing him again“. Even though the resumed relationship has been “better than it ever was“, you’ve been feeling “retroactive jealousy very badly“, jealousy about his past, mainly about the few flings he had during year of the separation from you, but “even before that“.

How are you feeling most recently/ today?

anita

 

 

Dear soma

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dear soma:

I am fine, at home and soon going to bed. I will reply further Fri morning. Have a good Fri in your part of the world, precious soma!

anita

 

 

 

 

Dear soma:

A dentist,  I am sure that you will never be unemployed as a dentist in any part of the world! It is amazing indeed that of 3-5 million test takers, you and your boyfriend scored so close, having only 28 people between your rankings!

“And on top of that we got into the same uni and we both are studying to become dentists! this situation has me believing in faith”- it makes me think of the two of you becoming a family and having children with no untreated teeth problems!

“About the retroactive jealousy thing, since the past few months, I am understanding the importance of communication more and more. I make an active effort to talk about things that bother me and encourage the people around me to do the same… I’ve also been trying to show my affection and gratitude and love more to my community. So, all this effort put by me and by my partner…  has put my mind at a bit more ease and now I understand that me obsessing over such unimportant stuff only damages our relationship”-

– excellent job, soma! I am positively impressed by you! Effective communication coupled with affection, gratitude and love makes a winning combination!

“As of now, I feel slightly underwhelmed by my life. I want to do more stuff, travel more, love more but for some reason, I feel like a bear in hibernation just sleeping. Heavy on wanting to love more, I just want to express my love through so many things and aspects, but I feel like I fail to do so”-

– I see a need for something else to factor into the winning combination I mentioned above, and that is Patience, my young friend. Pace yourself, slow down your thinking and wanting things, and aim at finding contentment in the present moment.

“My school actually starts in about a week and I’m super excited!.. I am wishing all the best to you, love, soma”-

– thank you for your wishing me the best and I am wishing you the best in your upcoming school year, and more and more love in your life!

anita

 

Dear soma:

I am earlier than I said I’d be, after reviewing some of our recent communication. “care to give me any advice on this?“- yes: slow down, calm down, be patient with yourself and with him.

Don’t RUSH- emotionally and otherwise. Turn down the speed by which your emotions travel. Make it easier for him, he needs things being easier for him, doesn’t he?

anita