Dear Smilefizz:

I am not surprised he didn’t come back from court, after his long drawn divorce was finally finalized, happy into your arms, ready and willing to marry you, or any woman in your place.

Even if he thought to himself and shared it with you, that “when this day comes everything will be okay everything will be better”, it is not necessarily how it feels when following years of an ugly divorce, involving three children, the divorce is finalized. Years of turmoil and pain don’t disappear and the man’s heart is cleared and ready for a new love, a new marriage, beginning  yet again… at the beginning.

You wrote in your first paragraph that the two of you “had several breakups because of me not trusting him for various reasons”- can you elaborate  on those various reasons?

I need to be away from the computer for the next sixteen hours or so. I will be glad to read more from you when I am back and reply to  you further.

anita