Hi leilah,

First of all, that is wonderful that you left! You are strong!

Secondly, and most important, is this: Your child is Primary. The safety of your child is your One Job. It is all that matters. Not your husband’s guilt, broken heart, or promise to change. It takes so very little to hurt a child. It’s not worth the risk. And it goes against your One Job.

I say rare, supervised visitations with his/her father. Later, when your son or daughter is an adult, go back to him (if you’d want to) or let them have their own relationship with him.

For the next decade and a half, the risk is too great.

Sending Love, Light, and Protection

Leila…
I also have abuse man..
From the start of the beginning he is a rude man and I am so fool,love blinding me.
When he brought me to his family house from there I know from where his rudeness came from.his father also a rude man.he like abusing his wife.
I thought if we have a child,he will get change.i was wrong again.even when i pregnant he still hit me.but i always forgive him.
He not change years after years..but it change me a lot.i become a rude woman.i start hit my son.i cant control my emotion,i easy to get angry.unfortunettly my father in law also do sex abuse to me.i at the point i cant take it anymore..so i leaving without my son.
Now I have better job,but i still live in past.the guilty eating me.but u are really lucky.u can stay with ur baby.I hope everything gonna be all right for u,don’t give up on things.my best wishes from here.