Mixed Signals

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April 15, 2015 at 4:32 am #75340

Inky
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Hi Lucy,

Awww, he sounds so CUTE!!!

From the outside looking in, yes, of course he likes you. No, he won’t admit it to you because you did literally laugh a little at him. Not in a mean way, but a guy’s worst fear is being laughed at.

And how adorable! He wants to add you as a friend ~ but not have your number ~ not yet, anyway. And you’re not a bed mate yet, nor a best friend, but a “little sister”. Don’t you see he’s trying to “save face”?

You know, he is precious ~ the opposite of some of the jerks out there. Enjoy the flirting. Don’t expect more, but don’t be surprised if there will be. Just have No Expectations and enjoy the ride!

Best,

Inky

April 15, 2015 at 10:35 am #75361

Lucy
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Hi Inky,

Thank you for your response!

I did wonder whether he was just saving face although the ‘little sister’ comment threw me off because if I see a guy as a ‘brother’ figure then I most definitely do not like him but I see your point.

We’ll see what happens, I’m enjoying it for the time being!

April 16, 2015 at 2:07 am #75395

mamie
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I think when you laugh off the dating advice, his ego was badly hurt. So now it will take him some time to get back to normal. But one thing is clear, he really likes you. He seems to be waiting for a clear signal from you before moving ahead. So keep flirting is not going to hurt anyone. Hope for the best

April 16, 2015 at 2:37 am #75400

Lucy
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Hi Mamie,

Thank you for your response!!

UPDATE: He went on a date yesterday with a girl – he kept telling me he didn’t want to go and that she initiated it – so when I asked him how it went today, he said that he doesn’t trust her but he will go on a second date with her – he hasn’t been on a second date with a girl in about two years.

Now I’m even more confused!

June 3, 2015 at 9:35 am #77665

Chaya
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Hi Lucy,

I’m 23 and have been in the dating game for a while, so I have a lot of experience with boy drama. When it comes to mixed message and flirting and the like, I find that if a guy is seriously into me he’ll just be straightforward about it. Not to say that your guy isn’t, but maybe you can try just being straightforward with him? “I like you, dude!”

June 3, 2015 at 6:05 pm #77704

Adam P
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Hey Lucy,

Yeah exactly what chaycups has in mind. Just take the chance and state your intentions; “I like you”, “Let’s go out”.

You mentioned that the two of you were in your final year at school. With summer around the corner and with the semester at a close if you two are still in communication, just take the chance. If the two of you have stopped talking after school ended, don’t worry about him and enjoy your summer, post- university life.

Take Care

June 10, 2015 at 10:40 am #78001

Bethany Rosselit
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Hi Lucy,

I would suggest being curious with him. So much communication is based on assumptions. When he says something, like that you aren’t his type, ask him what he means when he says this. Ask other open-ended questions, like “Why do you think that?” This will open up the floor for him to look at his reasons for his actions and for him to explain what is going on in his mind.

Good luck and keep us posted!

Bethany
http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org
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