you deserve better.

if she ever cheat on you once, he will cheat on you again and again.

just let it go, because if you keep holding up you will be more get hurts.

Dear skateordie:

It is a shame that your marriage didn’t work out. I hope that you and your ex wife attend to the children’s emotional welfare. Their well-being depends on such attention and care.

In your last email, you wrote: “No real heart to heart” between you and your wife, not much going on for years, as I understand it, between you and her in terms of a close, intimate connection. It was still wrong of her to cheat on you, and she is responsible as well to that no-real-heart-to-heart communication between the two of you, preceding and following her cheating.

The “Serenity Prayer” states: “grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change (that would be what you did, what she did, what she chooses will choose to do), the courage to change the things I can (that would be what you choose to do now and in the future, your part in every interaction with others), and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Part of what you can change, what is in your control, is to have that “real heart to heart” relationships with your children, get to know their hearts, attend to them. With a future woman, get to know her heart before committing to a relationship with her, and if you do commit, keep in touch with that heart, daily.

Is my input helpful in your efforts to seek closure?

anita

Dear skateoride:

You posted part-message, I believe. If some of your post got lost somehow, feel free to re-type and submit it.

anita