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  • December 18, 2017 at 4:33 am #182703
    Anonymous
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    Dear JemmaJune:

    Did you ask him or did he tell you why he has not shown interest in having a sexual relationship with you?

    anita

    December 18, 2017 at 4:34 am #182705
    Anonymous
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    * didn’t get submitted correctly…

    December 18, 2017 at 4:37 am #182707
    Inky
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    Hi JemmaJune,

    Some people are asexual. Some guys are incredibly passive. I say keep him as a “cuddle buddy” and as a best friend. Then later (or sooner!) acquire a real boyfriend. Of course you will have to be brutally (yet gently) honest. Say you don’t want to change him and you love him exactly as he is but you are a sexual being. That you should shed the “boyfriend/girlfriend” definition.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    December 18, 2017 at 4:39 am #182709
    Eliana
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    Hi JemmaJune,

    Have you discussed this with him? Maybe he does not believe in sex before marriage. Still, I feel after a year together, if you feel you are serious like you say, things should be a little more intimate. Cuddling, kissing, holding hands, physical bonding. You have your needs, and if he is not meeting them, it can make you feel rejected and frustrated, I can imagine. I would have a talk with him, to see if he envisions a future with you. Have you met his parents? If you make advanced toward him, what does he do..does he pull away? I would take all this into consideration and re-evaluate the relationship.

    December 18, 2017 at 4:47 am #182711
    JemmaJune
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    Thanks so much for your comments. I am nervous to discuss with him. We have ‘slept together’ in the same bed, spooned, have made out but no sex of any form. It’s very confusing. I am not aware of him having previous sexual experience (unlike how he knows I have), and don’t know how to approach the topic with him.

    December 18, 2017 at 4:56 am #182715
    Eliana
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    Hi JemnaJane,

    Maybe just write it out. Writing your feelings down, makes it easier to express it in person. Just tell him, you feel confused about your relationship, how he feels about you, and you are looking for more than friendship. Has he been to a sex therapist for help in this area..someone to talk to?

    December 18, 2017 at 5:01 am #182717
    Anonymous
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    Dear JemmaJane:

    Are you afraid to ask him why he has not pursued a sexual relationship with you, or why he didn’t respond sexually to you? If so, what is it that scares you about asking him?

    anita

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