Dear Ben:

“I’m left in utter panic and the only thing I’ve been able to think about all day for the last week is the status of the relationship… I want to reestablish a warmer connection with him. He said just to live, let life flow etc.”-

– can’t let life flow when in panic. When in panic, a person does the opposite of flowing, the person gets stuck focusing on the perceived danger (in your case atm: an off-status of the relationship).

My words here on your screen cannot get you unstuck any more than his words. To get unstuck:  psychiatric medications… ? heavy-duty mindfulness practices…?

anita

Dear Ben:

” what if I just decide to believe it is alright?“- As a man thinks, so he is, more accurately, For as he thinkeths in his heart, so is he (bible). If you think and believe in your heart that you are in control.. you are in control.

You can make a leap of faith today, faith in your ability to survive and be okay whether the relationship status is on or off. I would very much like you to believe this to be true. I do.

anita