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June 9, 2014 at 4:07 am #58393
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ParticipantHi Jamie,
I don’t have magic words of wisdom to fix it all, but thoughts to consider.
The culture has done a number on us with the concept of Youth and “What that means”, and “The best times of your life”, the “lifelong friends”, Etc. When you watch movies about high school, they’re all the same: I don’t fit in, but now I’m the hero. Movies about college: One big frat party with wild adventures.
Expectations: We have also had a mass brainwashing about Change, and How it will be Easy AND Great.
Change Itself: In a couple years, your life will probably change whether you want it to or not. School will end, the business might close or move, your friends will move away, one of the things you go after will likely manifest, you will probably meet someone, etc.
Rejection: The people making the decisions. They don’t know you. And, you can’t do their job for them, you know what I mean? They were wrong. For every No, put in two more applications somewhere else. You could have 100 Nos, but it only takes 1 Yes.
July 14, 2014 at 2:31 pm #60873Mike
ParticipantSometimes life seems so uncertain, especially when it has been the same thing for a while and we have been eagerly awaiting a change to happen.
We are trapped in our situations sometimes so much so it is out of control to change it ourselves, at least that is how it feels.
We feel like we are working so hard, but have nothing to show for it and no one mentions a thing about it.
We are divided one half wants to pack the bags and leave everything behind for a new life the one we want, the other half is our “common sense” asking us if we are crazy?Sometimes you have to go out on a limb on your own to get anything done. It is sad that your friends haven’t come through for you, but the only person that you can always count on in life is yourself. It is a dangerous place out there so you should always have some type of plan, I am sure there are institutions that can help and I know for sure there are places to stay at cheap prices, but safety is always a concern.
Don’t over look the small moments that make up life they add up and some day you will miss them and regret not soaking them in more.
What you describe as the 20’s experience is as Inky said the cultural concepts. You would get 100x’s the experience if you saved the money you would spend on school and traveled the world, but not only traveled the world. Colleges just want to take your money and give you a piece of paper saying that you “know” something and unfortunately they didn’t accept you. Guess why they didn’t accept you! Not because you are not good enough, but because they HAVE to reject people in order that their pieces of paper have some sort of importance. Not only that, but what you describe as fun is vastly over rated, it is empty in all regards.I have been living in the same city my whole life, I am 29, I have been in the same house for 8 years. I talk to all of the same people all of the time. I have had the same jobs cutting grass, removing snow, remodeling for the past 14 years. I have a Bachelor’s in Criminal Justice, it is a completely useless degree most degrees are other than just telling people that you can devote yourself to school for years. I don’t have my degree hanging anywhere and I hate when people ask about it, but also hate when people assume I haven’t gone to school just from what I do. I dream of doing something great with my life, and so far they have been just that dreams. I am thinking maybe going back for something more interesting to me, but then maybe I’ll just have a more expensive piece of paper. My real interests our adventures and writing.
How do you define success? Answer that in your head. Is it that picturesque life depicted in culture? Is it having no regrets? Is it making a lot of money? It could be anything! How I define success can never affect how successful you feel about your life and vice versa. I have learned more since being out of school than I have while in school, running a business and meeting different people. Something new always comes up. I would recommend that in your free time you try something like starting a business whether it just be selling stuff online, it is a good experience.
Hope it was somewhat helpful…Goodluck.
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