Dear Emily:

Welcome back to your thread, more than 4 months since you last posted. I understand you being stressed, and unable to relieve your stress by smoking weed. The landlord does not allow his tenants to smoke weed, and I suppose he has the legal right to do so. But you can relieve some of your stress in other ways, like a hot bath.. or a cold shower (depending on the temperature), soft music… maybe listen to a guided meditation to calm down, yoga, etc.

And you can vent here anytime! And please: be kind to yourself for being an “adult that doesn’t have it all together yet”- you had a very difficult childhood, you have a very difficult life: it’s not fair that you expect yourself to have it all together. Besides, hardly anyone (and maybe no one) has it all together!

One day at a time, one hour at a time. Calm down best you can, take a few deep breaths once in a while. How is your child doing?

anita

Dear Emily:

I am so glad to read what you wrote above, reading that you are a good mother: there are not enough good mothers in our world, and a good mother makes the world a better place, one person at a time!

Keep the value of making the world a better place, as you are doing. I am proud of you, if I may say so!

anita

Dear Emily:

A struggle it is. But we all need some down time- to relax, to forget about the struggles. How is the weather where you are?

anita

Dear Emily:

It is warm here, 84 degrees and hazy because of the fires, here in the West. I am about to go out for a 3.5 mile walk, my daily walk.. in the sun, heat and bit of smoke.. just because I am in the habit of doing so.

anita

Dear Emily:

I returned from my walk less than an hour ago. Yes, I live on the west coast and there is a heat wave all the way from California up to Oregon, Washington and British Columbia (Canada), and to the east: Idaho. The heat causes drought/ dryness and therefore fires.

Yes, I remember that we talked about you forming a daily routine. You said that you purchased yoga equipment, if I remember correctly. Emily, please feel free to post anytime, just like you did today: a sentence, a few sentences, as short or as long as you want your post to be. I will always be glad to read from you and reply!

anita

Dear Emily:

I hope that you get the more flexible job (Home Care). Keeping yourself busy, having a daily routine is important to you, isn’t it. A daily routine is also very important to your son!

“I have to include my son in everything I do So it’s We instead of me“- beautifully said.

I hope you make good use of the indoor spin bike you want to purchase, ride it while listening to music or watching TV, so that you don’t get bored.

“I’m working with my situation now not against it“- wise!

anita