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  • September 24, 2019 at 12:07 pm #314033
    Anonymous
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    Dear Alecsee:

    Moving to a new apartment that is significantly less expensive and is quieter (“seems more quieter”)- reads like a good choice to me.

    It would be very easy to make a choice if one choice is all good (only positives) and the other is all bad (only negatives). Choices are difficult to make because when you chose A you give up the positives of B.

    The apartment you chose is way less expensive (a huge positive), quieter (would be a huge positive for me). The old  apartment has a better view (a smaller positive). Overall, two huge positives ae greater than a smaller positive.

    anita

    September 24, 2019 at 12:38 pm #314043
    Peter
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    Hi Alecsee

    When you say “Letting Go” what does that look like to you?

    For the longest time when I was given the advice to Let go I misunderstood and felt like I was being asked to forget and or pretend nothing happened.

    I’ve learned that ‘Letting go’ is not a forgetting or indifference to our experience but entering fully in the flow of the experience. Even if the experience was the memory of the event.  Letting Go is a release from blocking experience to allowing the even or memory of the event to be experienced as It Is in the present. Through the concept of ‘letting go’ we ‘Detach’ our sense of ‘self’ and or ‘ego’  allowing moment to flow as it is in the moment.

    We Let Go or Let Flow our attachments to our thoughts and memories. In this way we avoid dwelling on a thought or memory which often includes emotions such as regret. Regretting = dwelling = Blockage vice flow

    I also don’t think I’m as open to change as I use to be.

    The thing with change is that it happens slowly then all at once. We tend not to notice all the small stuff of change until we notice a result. Change is also a flow.

    September 25, 2019 at 7:19 am #314217
    Inky
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    Hi Alecsee,

    Being indecisive is a form of perfectionism. You would be totally OK with the breakup, course of studies, the apartment, or passing the ball to the left if you were certain it was The Perfect Thing to Do.

    Strive for Good, not Perfectly Perfect.

    Passing the ball to the left is probably a GOOD choice if you thought of doing it.

    Breaking up with your girlfriend was a good choice, even though she broke up with you. Did she make the perfect choice? Probably not if you’re a great guy, but it was a GOOD choice for her at the time.

    Is being a teacher the perfect choice! No way! Not if you want to afford an apartment with a view, but it is obviously a GOOD choice!

    The cheaper apartment? Perfect? Nope! But a GOOD choice!

    Best,

    Inky

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