I already told her I liked texting her and keeping in contact with her, she ignored that part though so pretty sure she does not care about bothering me. Posted it on page 6

What sort of questions should I ask? something like “Can I have your honest answer on something?” then ask the questions like if for instance she did not message me for another week “I’ve noticed you’ve not messaged me in 2 weeks, is it you don’t want to stay in touch with me anymore?”, or along those lines. If she gives me the “busy” line again then i’ll probably just say “so you don’t, alright” If she does not really wanna text me much i’ll likely just tell her we should go our separate ways as I don’t want to be one of those people who barely see’s someone they call friend and that friend does not really wanna keep in contact with you.

Also no she does not know I wish she initiated texts to me, it’s mostly been me so I guess she’s used to that. Or she just flat out does not want to. Lots of girls are old fashioned and expect guys to start the text, but that’s mostly for relationships and not friendships.

What if she just says “i’m working a lot” like last time? I dunno why i’m stressing out over it, I could care less about the other people not texting me first although they do, just like me. Actually I DO know the answer why i’m stressing a lot, but I don’t really wanna say it in this thread. Reading more about this situation I saw a guy post something along the lines of this to another person who’s wondering why her friend does not text her first “She’s not tired of talking to you and you should talk to eachother” and other things. Also talked about the friendship has always been that way, it’s always been this way for me since Sept.

Should I just text her right now instead of waiting and ask? “Hey I got a question for you and was looking for an honest answer”, then she says “ok ask away” or whatever, then i’ll say “I was wondering if you are not into texting first? I’ve not got a text from you out of the blue since September”.

It just doesn’t make sense she would want to push me away? we still get along great, lose track of time talking and can talk for HOURS enjoying a coffee, or a dinner. I still want to give her that present…as for coffee? it’s been about a week and a half since she asked and I said a week or 2, but i’m a mess…I can’t even handle my own thoughts! let alone being around her for a little while.

So shall I ask her that? perhaps also say I was curious about why I don’t get a text from her anymore out of the blue and had to look up the reason and that’s why i’m texting you.

Well that went well…Screw you brain!!! had to try adding some humor.

Me: Hey hey, how are ya? Working on this coldish rainy night?
Her: Yes 🙁
Her: But the truck light parade went by tonight..that was kinda cool
Me: Neato, Corey was watching with his kid.
Me: Hey I got a question for you and was just looking for an honest answer. Totally up to you if you don’t want to hear it though.
Her: Go ahead!?
Me: I was just curious if you don’t like to text first. Don’t think I’ve seen a text out of the blue from you since September. Like I said, just curious. Please don’t beat me up with a hockey stocl lol.
Her: Yeah I just don’t text much..and work too much nothing personal.
Her: I talk to you more then anyone else at your work.
Me: Alright I was just wondering. With no questions comes no answers haha.
Her: it’s hard to talk much over text.
Me: Really? Sucks for them 😛 I mostly text Steve, you, Jay the most.
Me: I love texting. I can text all day, all night.
Me: BTW if you still want coffee, we can try for the upcoming week if you aint busy.
Her: Sounds good.
Her: I’ll get back to you.
Me: Alright have a great night, i’ll catch ya later.

I meant hockey stick, not hockey stocl. Didn’t realize I typed it wrong when I was copying the text convo.

Thanks. I’m going to try learning a bit about being more interested in what a person is saying when talking to you, I always want to interrupt and give my input. Women love talking about themselves, so i’ll let her talk about herself more while I try observing and listening, and don’t worry about what i’m going to think of talking about next as it should come naturally. Plan to visit her Thursday or Friday at her job with 2 or 3 more guys (the same guys I brought last time) for some dinner. Also plan to not go back to the mountain I bike to for exercise (lost 35 pounds in August walking up and down it 6 days a week plus eating clean), plan to get back into my Insanity workout program…I lost 50 pounds years ago on it in 2 months, i’m starting to gain weight as I don’t eat that healthy anymore and havn’t excercised in months. I’m at 206 instead of 195 🙁 and i’m 5’10.