Karma and recovery

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January 28, 2024 at 12:26 pm #427344

anita
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Dear Rebecca:

You are welcome!

“My childhood was a mess… internalised a lot of unhelpful ‘messages ‘ and would like to be free from them, but time is running out as I’m at retirement age. I don’t have the resources to pay for therapy“- in the context of self-help (free of charge), you are welcome to share here about your messy childhood and the unhelpful “messages” you received back then.

And I can share with you about my messy childhood and the unhelpful messages I received back then. Maybe it will help you to free yourself from those messages. It’s not too late to be free at your age.

“As for forgiving myself, it’s all blurring into one now“- I didn’t understand this sentence.

anita

January 28, 2024 at 1:40 pm #427347

Rebecca
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Dear Anita,

Thank you for your reply. Sorry but I can’t write it all out as its very likely that my parents might happen across this and recognise my writing. I would like to, but I don’t want to be that open with them.

By saying things were blurry, I mean my recollection of things isn’t as sharp right now and what’s bothering me most at the moment is someone who has been leaning on me for support and offloading and venting, despite me saying they needed to go to someone else which has left me feeling cross and used because they actually have more support than I have. I was just starting to think positively and as it’s as if they trampled all over that by making me feel sorry for them and then once they had my attention blurting out all sorts of negative thoughts about others and society. I hope I don’t do that.

I realise I too now am blurting this out, but I felt exhausted by them. I don’t know what to do to shift the anger I feel.

Thank you for listening.

Best wishes,

Rebecca

January 28, 2024 at 1:48 pm #427348

anita
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Dear Rebecca: you are welcome! I’ll reply to you sometime Monday (It is Sun early afternoon here).

anita

January 28, 2024 at 1:54 pm #427349

Roberta
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Dear Rebecca

My current bedtime reading is Not about being good – a practical guide to Buddhist ethics by Subhadramati.

I have found it very readable and it has suggested exercises in each chapter, you may find it a good foundation for what you want to achieve.

Best wishes

Roberta

January 28, 2024 at 2:30 pm #427350

Rebecca
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Dear Roberta,
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Thank you very much for your reply and the book recommendation, which I’m just about to investigate.</p>
Best wishes

Rebecca

January 29, 2024 at 11:10 am #427378

Tommy
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[quote quote=427339]Dear Tommy, Thank you for writing about karma, however, I am not understanding some things. When you say harm returns to others do you mean harm returns from me? Also, how is one meant to manage one’s emotions then? Sorry if these seem silly questions. Is there a book or video you can recommend? With thanks and best wishes, Rebecca[/quote]

There are no silly questions. However there may not be an answer. When harms returns to those who cause harm, it comes from their environment. It may be you. It may not be. I do not know.

How is one meant to manage one’s emotions? IDK. I feel emotions but I do not act only upon those emotions. They do make me think. Sometimes I wonder what caused it and other times I am trying to resolve those feelings. As a child, I felt many emotions. Some good and some bad. When the emotions alone made me act, the results were not good. As I grew older, I learned not to act only from emotions. I can not say how anyone else should deal with their emotions. I do know that if one holds onto anger or hate then the emotion possess a large part of one’s mind. Some call it baggage. Others call it a weight.

I am guessing that I am not a good influence on you. Causing confusion. Please let me withdraw from more confusing answers. I wish you well.

January 29, 2024 at 12:44 pm #427380

anita
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Dear Rebecca:

“Sorry but I can’t write it all out as its very likely that my parents might happen across this and recognise my writing. I would like to, but I don’t want to be that open with them.“- I understand that your parents are familiar with the forums here, and you don’t want them to know that it is you posting here.

“By saying things were blurry, I mean my recollection of things isn’t as sharp right now and what’s bothering me most at the moment is someone who has been leaning on me for support and offloading and venting, despite me saying they needed to go to someone else…I was just starting to think positively and as it’s as if they trampled all over that by making me feel sorry for them and then once they had my attention blurting out all sorts of negative thoughts about others and society. I hope I don’t do that. I realise I too now am blurting this out, but I felt exhausted by them. I don’t know what to do to shift the anger I feel“-

– (1) You are welcome to share here anything you want to share, as long as it doesn’t include any personal details that can identify you to people who know you personally and follow the forums,

(2) The anger you feel is at a person who filled your mind with negative thoughts about people and society at large even though you asked that person to stop doing that. I am sorry that the person did not respect your assertion and contaminated your mind just as you were starting to think positively. I hope that you are no longer in contact with that person..?

anita
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