Jealousy issues/Infinite Love?

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September 17, 2018 at 10:03 am #226073

Anonymous
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Dear Jenny:

I don’t think he understands the “infinite nature of love” any more than you and I do. Perhaps his claim of understanding the term is motivated by nothing but desire. Nothing infinite about desire, any more than any emotion.

Love, that is something that makes it so that the loving party (him) deals with what bothers you, not send you out into the universe to “deal with that”. A series of honest conversations with you on the matter will be the loving thing to do. I hope such do take place and hope to read more from you.

anita

September 17, 2018 at 10:58 am #226077

coconut
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I wonder if his ‘friend’ would be okay with it if she were in YOUR shoes.

I wonder if she would understand the ‘infinite love’ he tells you about, if she were the wife and you were the friend and also ‘the other woman’. I don’t think so, but people are different so who knows?

If you are not okay with it, then you are not okay with it. Of course, I don’t get him but this belief of his that says “love is infinite” and he can love more than one woman at once is very convenient for him…..

September 17, 2018 at 12:02 pm #226083

Peter
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Dear Jenny

I agree with Anita. I’m not aware of many people who have good under standing of the “infinite nature of love” especially as it relates to the idea’s we have about sex, intimacy and commitment. Your husband can love his friend without having sex with her. That he feels that sex is needed in order for him to express that love suggests that his understanding of the “infinite nature of love” needs more depth.

There are those that can handle a open marriage however such a thing requires really, really, really good communicators skills on all parties evolved. My observations, few have those skills and eventually all open relationships end.

September 17, 2018 at 12:09 pm #226089

Inky
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Hi Jenny,

I love how some men can do and say the right thing…… and then proceed to dig their own graves, shoot themselves and bury their own body. *headsmack*

Go to Staples or online and get the “NO” Button. It is a button that says a very startling “NO!” when pushed. I used it with my mother one Thanksgiving when she started talking about how half of us in the family should lose weight.

Him: “… blah blah blah… Infinite Love…”

You press the NO Button: “NO!”

Him: *startles* “What I MEANT to say was…”

You: *presses NO! Button*

Him: *mentions the skanky hoe and Infinite Love*

*NO!*

Anyway, not to minimize the problem, but it worked with my mother after a very awkward fifteen minutes. She never talked about weight loss/diets/other people’s bodies again! You may not be about to fix his mentality, but you can teach people how to treat you.

Best,

Inky

September 19, 2018 at 12:16 pm #226341

Brandy
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How do we get Inky’s response into the “Best of Inky” file? 🙂

Jenny, the he would want to help her out part of your post triggered my gag reflex.”Infinite nature of love”…..whaaaaa????

Your feelings about this situation seem very normal to me. It’s unfair of him to expect you to understand.

B
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