Dear Faith:

You wrote: “Our relationship has no price tag for me”. But the major surgery you are about to have has a high price tag on it, and you “have to cover a big copay for this surgery coming up”. He owes you $200 and you asked him to repay his debt to you so that you can use this money for the copay.

His response: “He got upset and said I was being petty for asking this at this time”-

-he told you that you were being petty, meaning your surgery, a major surgery from which you may not  come out of  alive is … petty to him-

Did I understand correctly?

anita

Dear Faith:

I am so sorry, Faith. I wish your boyfriend was a decent man who knew that your very life is not a petty thing. I wish he was decent enough to return to you money that he owes you. The fact that you lashed out at him verbally, having told him whatever it is you  told him, does not justify him not returning to you money that he owes you.

I noticed the name you chose to use here, Faith. I hope you have faith in your healing and recovering well from the injury you suffered. I hope you get the best doctors available to perform this surgery. And that you focus on your upcoming healing and recovering.

I will soon be away from the computer for the next 15 hours. I  hope other members answer you before I return. I hope you post again anytime, to  express your thoughts and feelings and will reply anytime you do post.

anita

Faith,

Stress can reveal the true character of someone.  Your boyfriend may well be stressed or he is just an a-hole in general.  If he truly was interested in your well being then he would not be hanging up on your nor withholding money that is yours and calling you petty.  He has ignored being in contact with you by not responding or reaching out.  All this is not the behavior of a loving partner.

Best you find out now so you can drop him.  This way you won’t have to suffer the indignities from a rude, uncaring, and selfish boyfriend.

Mark

Dear Faith:

I noticed you started a new thread and posted a reply on someone else’s thread and in both places there is a message about  inappropriate content. I think you are pressing on the wrong key reporting yourself, by mistake. In the thread you started, it is not possible for members to reply because of this message.

If you want, you can start a new thread and be careful to not accidently report yourself for inappropriate content.

anita