When I realised my ex had gone straight into another relationship, it was like I had to start the grieving process all over again. Anger is a stage of grieving, so don’t worry, it is healthy (as long as it doesn’t get embedded) and it will pass. Going for a long run is a great idea, very healthy for mind and body. And you seem to be doing a lot of self-discovery, too.

I have a strong intuition that you’re going to be just fine, lovely lady 🙂 It’ll hurt for a while, but you’ll get through it.

Oh Leslie, I’m so sorry,

I love how he expects you to change, and then says that line, “Only if we both change”. What a creep. Can I say that? If you truthfully look back on the past year with him, I bet you could see how he would act like a judgmental/self-satisfied/and/or little brat.

I did have the experience in college of being broken up with where one day I saw my ex, alone, walking across the college campus. Like a dope, I followed him. There was no other woman, but I saw him having the time of his life, jamming, smiling, not soul torn asunder at all. On another post I had replied that he did try to come back into my life, but that was so many years later it didn’t matter. I felt nothing.

It’s funny, just last night I was sitting at a bar having a glass of wine with my sister and (get this) her ex-husband’s ex-fiancé. The guy had been married twice before and every four years leaves a wake of broken hearts, wives, girlfriends, and mistresses strewn behind him. The man is now, according to karma, balding, old, broke and alone.

I don’t know what I’m trying to say, but maybe it’s don’t be surprised if you find yourself ten/twenty years later commiserating about this guy in a bar.

Take Care of Yourself, OK?

Inky

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