Hi alyahB_,

I think he’s bi. The question is if you are up for it. But even if he wasn’t bi, it sounds like you aren’t feeling a connection with him that you wanted to anyway. That he is just “meh” or “OK”. But now throw in that pesky bi-sexual thing and that makes the “meh”/”OK” feeling you have for him intolerable.

Get this: you don’t need a solid reason to dump someone. Just say, “This isn’t working”. Boom! You’re free!

Best,

Inky

Dear alyah_B:

You wrote: “I have never had a boyfriend mostly casual hook ups and one guy that I fell in love with but only wanted to hook up”. Your love life experience then has been limited to “casual hook ups”.

In a previous thread, December last year, you wrote: “most of my encounters with guys have been me ‘jumping the gun’ (physically) with them, too soon. I express my like for them in that way.”

More recently, in another thread, you expressed how lonely you feel.

Your focus on this thread is whether this man is bisexual and other curiosities about his sexual interests and practices.

Perhaps the focus should be something other than sex. Maybe not with this man, maybe with another, but something other than sex. Maybe it is time to no longer “jump the gun”, but slowly and gradually getting to know a man otherwise. I suppose this means getting to know yourself as well, otherwise.

What do you think?

anita