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September 18, 2019 at 3:00 pm #313001
AnonymousGuestDear Tony:
I understand your anger. It is valid. Injustice is common everywhere: in governments, the work place (including yours), in homes, in the streets… everywhere.
The serenity prayer can come handy to you. I will change the word “things” to “injustices”:
.. grant me the serenity to accept the injustice I cannot change, to change the injustices I can change, and the wisdom to know the difference.
anita
September 19, 2019 at 9:28 am #313097
PeggyParticipantHi Tony,
Do any of the other teachers feel the way you feel about this Principal? He may have been investigated once and got away with things but that doesn’t mean that he always will. It might be worth you keeping notes of incidents where you think his behavior is untoward should he be reported at a later date. At least you may feel as if you have some control over this situation by doing this. People rarely get away with this kind of behavior forever.
This Principal may already be suffering in his personal life far more than you can ever know. If you have no intention of leaving the school, then what alternative do you have but to make the best of a bad situation.
Peggy
September 19, 2019 at 1:49 pm #313143
TonyParticipant@anita Grant me the serenity to accept the injustice I cannot change, to change the injustices I can change, and the wisdom to know the difference. Thank you, I will say that to myself. And I’m grateful are still here helping so many people.
Thank you @Peggy for your reply. Yes, many teachers feel this way also, but I think they have better EQ and self control than me, to not let it creep into their personal lives – just at school.
That is one ‘relief’ I have, knowing that karma, or whatever people want to call it, will come back around. I’ve even caught myself thinking how his wife and kids will too suffer when it eventually does catch up to him, and I didn’t even feel bad. Which is horrible, because I’m not naturally like this.
But I guess you are right, just have to make the best of a temporary bad situation. It is just hard watching other innocent hard working people suffer and bullied by an asshole.
September 19, 2019 at 2:17 pm #313149AnonymousGuestDear Tony:
You are welcome and thank you for your kind note to me.
Regarding the principal, “We just have no evidence” you wrote. What if you keep a notebook at home and take notes about his behavior, who he meets, what he does every day. Maybe in the future, if a legal action is brought against him, your notes will help the prosecution against him.
anita
September 22, 2019 at 1:12 pm #313619TonyParticipantHey @anita
Yes that is a good idea, like what @peggy mentioned too.
I think for the time being, I need to practice inner acceptance. Perhaps this is one of life’s challenge to try help me grow in some way. Forcing me to practice being patience and accept even those things that I do not want to accept.
September 22, 2019 at 2:04 pm #313631AnonymousGuestDear Tony:
Reads reasonable, that you “need to practice inner acceptance”, and accept “those things that (you) don’t want to accept”- this is a difficult challenge. When we don’t want something to be true, we don’t want to accept it. We want to change it. When we can’t change it and we keep wanting to change it, we keep getting hurt and frustrated.
It is similar to a bird flying into a closed window trying to get into a room in a house, banging its head against the window again and again. I guess the bird doesn’t accept that there is a closed window there, between her and the inside of a room, so she keeps flying into it, getting a headache every time.
anita
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