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  • October 17, 2016 at 7:04 am #118352
    Peter
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    For some reason this is a very common experience in relationship break ups
    The person that initiates the break up attempts to keep the light on just in case, a subconscious back up plan.

    To avoid the cycle relationship and create enough space for you to move on. You must be firm and Tell him to no longer contact you. No other words are required

    If you soften your request in anyway with explanations and or justifications you open the door for continued communication.

    If you intention is to break off contact you can’t leave openings of any kind as anything you say other than for him to stop contacting you is a opening

    October 17, 2016 at 9:56 am #118354
    Inky
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    Hi PryingMiMi,

    The best way to say “Don’t contact me” is not to reply ~ ever. Because let’s say he calls/texts 40 times and you respond on the 41st/ time he’ll know all he has to do is spam you until he gets a response. If you see a communication is from him, don’t even check to see what he said as some apps/sites/etc. show him if you’ve read it.

    And no more answering strange numbers.

    Pretty soon he’ll feel ridiculous even to himself.

    I speak from experience.

    Good Luck!

    Inky

    October 17, 2016 at 11:53 am #118360
    Adam P
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    Yes along with no contact, your ego will become more and more restless wanting to get in contact with your ex. As well your ego will want you to go no contact wanting to hurt/punish or seek revenge against your ex. The important thing to remember is to go no contact to better improve your well being and life. It will be difficult at first but in time the negative feelings will pass and life will improve with you getting better.
    Thank you and take care
    -AP85

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