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September 1, 2024 at 4:19 pm #436954
anitaParticipantDear Shandrea: I will read and reply Mon morning.
anita
September 2, 2024 at 9:34 am #436970anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
You are a practical person and your # 1 priority in regard to a job, is to accommodate your son’s schedule. It is a shame that your son’s father doesn’t help with raising any of his three kids.
“Is waking up at 3am a bad thing?“- only if it means not sleeping enough on a regular basis. Restful sleep is a physical need and when we don’t get enough of it, we function less effectively. Do you get enough sleep?
anita
September 2, 2024 at 10:27 am #436974
AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
I usually sleep about 6 to 7 hours a night . This passing July and August I was on summer vacation from my school job (I was excited about summer vacation), But I honestly I didn’t enjoy this summer , I was bored and stuck at home . I still do exercise everyday at 5am, but that’s it .
September 2, 2024 at 11:58 am #436975anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
I also used to be bored and stuck at home during summer vacations from school (through high school). Recently, life is way more interesting and social than it was when I was a teenager and onward. I hope that this will happen for you too, sooner than later!
anita
September 2, 2024 at 12:20 pm #436976AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
What made life more interesting and social for you ? Was it your career choice or a hobby ?
September 2, 2024 at 12:46 pm #436977anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
It was neither a career choice (I never really had a career, but instead: temporary jobs), nor a hobby. It was getting to feel like a child again, a child from whom I disconnected/ dissociated in my first decade of life. Most of my life (ever since I remember myself) I was neither a child (joyful, social, interactive), nor an adult (a post-child mature person). Instead, I drifted in a no-land of dissociated/ disconnected state of mind.
With healing (part of which is my 9-year-long interactions in this website), I finally reconnected to the child-within me that’s been neglected for so long. I simply feel.. part of me. it’s a feeling, a state of mind.
anita
September 2, 2024 at 2:44 pm #436979AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
That was beautiful to read ,Thank you for sharing that ! How do you reconnect with the inner child by communicating? If so about what ?
September 2, 2024 at 3:33 pm #436981anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
You are welcome, and thank you for saying it was beautiful to read. I will answer your questions Tues morning when I will hopefully be more focused than I am now.
anita
September 3, 2024 at 7:19 am #436991anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
“How do you reconnect with the inner child by communicating? If so about what?“- best I can explain it is this: humans are social animals. It is positive communications/ positive interactions with other people (or pets) that make us feel child-like joy. Because we are born social animals, we can’t experience joy in isolation, not for long.
Think of another very social animal: a dog. When do you see a dog wagging its tail joyfully, like a puppy? Not when the dog is alone, isolated, but when the dog sees another dog or a person and gets all excited anticipating a positive interaction, and when actually interacting positively.
I was mostly isolated for a long, long time, as a child, a teenager and onward, and many of the interactions I had with people, starting with my mother, were negative interactions. As a result I was depressed a whole lot. Healing for me happened/ is happening as a result of positively interacting with people.
anita
September 3, 2024 at 8:42 am #437002AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
Joy is definitely something my inner child wanted . I am in the process of giving myself everything I wanted as a child . Hobbies that bring me joy and financial stability. Do you think connections can be made through healthy hobbies ?
September 3, 2024 at 9:23 am #437005anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
I am glad to read that you are in the process of giving yourself everything you wanted as a child.
“Do you think connections can be made through healthy hobbies?“- yes, I do. When people have a common hobby (a hobby they feel positive about), it encourages a beginning of positive interactions and communication.
It takes more than a common hobby though, to continue and deepen a positive communication between people. It takes a developing friendship based on trust and respect. (And trust in others is not easy when we grew up without it).
anita
September 3, 2024 at 9:53 am #437006AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
Trust is important to me . I’ve been betrayed, used, and mentally abused . I don’t want to meet anymore people with bad intentions .
September 3, 2024 at 10:13 am #437007anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
Yes, I understand, of course. I guess the only way to build trust in a new person is slowly, gradually, if the person deserves trust. It is difficult to know for sure though, that there will not be a betrayal of trust sometime along the way. It takes courage to try and to persist in getting to know a person.
anita
September 3, 2024 at 10:30 am #437008AnonymousInactiveDear Anita,
You’re good at this ! I will have to be brave and patient.
September 3, 2024 at 11:01 am #437009anitaParticipantDear Shandrea:
Thank you, and please do be brave and patient. Let’s talk more tomorrow, or when you post again!
anita
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