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  • September 26, 2017 at 11:58 am #170445
    Inky
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    Hi There!

    To simplify Everything:

    1. Tell him you’ll date him WHEN he is  (finally) divorced. This way you wouldn’t be the Rebound Girl.

    2. In the meantime, take things slowly but only with guys who have NO baggage.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    September 27, 2017 at 5:26 am #170545
    Anonymous
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    Dear KINDNESS:

    Is he no  longer living in the family home and is his physical separation complete?

    You are worried about being a rebound relationship for this man. A Rebound Relationship (online definition) is “one in which a person becomes overly quick to commit to a new partner after having experienced an upsetting breakup or divorce.”

    My input: a man (or woman) may be overly quick to commit to a new partner at any time in his life, be it after a breakup or following years of not being in a relationship.

    What you are afraid of is that he is with you not because he values you, not because you are special to him, a Someone,  but because he is desperate, lonely, upset and is looking to feel better no matter who he is with, could be Anyone. Is my understanding correct?

    anita

    October 10, 2017 at 12:05 am #172533
    Kelley
    Participant

    Thank you for sharing this as I am in a similar situation. Only the other half does not want to let go. There is baggage

    I feel guilt and confusion over this. He does value me and has kept his word every step of the way. I have no reason to not trust him despite some red flags.

    I fear being in denial from accepting mistreatment and misreading situations from my past relationships.

     

    I have already crossed a boundary with myself by going into my situation and becoming a point of contention.

    I do fear being a rebound and that I am just bound to be attracted to emotionally detached men. However, this man is the most connected that I’ve ever felt with someone.

    So, I keep taking care of myself. Showing myself compassion.. Meditating and praying. At times, I have reset boundaries to ensure that I am taking time for myself and practicing self love.

    Regardless.. I do relate and you’re not alone.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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