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  • June 4, 2015 at 2:19 am #77727
    Keon
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    Hey Tinybuddha Surfers,

    My name is Keon. I am 19 years young and i’m suffering from an extended battle with anxiety & depression. This has ultimately caused limited self-beliefs, obsessive and desperate attention, major procrastination (I have not done anything productive in a while) and isolation from social encounter. I am not happy with who i am, i’m fucking miserable in this world, and it’s sad. I know my potential, and i can feel it shouting at me everyday, telling me to get out there. I have become a victim of culture, and the expectations of society. I feel worthless, and everything moves so fast i feel i’m not valued due to my lack of understanding in this fucking rat race. I’ve been in one relationship and that was 3 years ago, it ended horribly in my perspective, but that’s because i am always plagued by negative thoughts and misunderstanding of others perspectives. This has latched on to me for years, and it’s to the point it’s not even relationships i’m depressed about, it’s everything. It’s more spiritual than anything external. I spend days and nights thinking about my life, society and my disconnection from my family(They live with me and i barely speak to them). I’m not sure what has caused this curse in my life, but i have come to the point where it is all my responsibility to change this, but i have no motivation or inspiration to take a step. I’m mentally disillusioned, and live in more of a fantasy world. I’m constantly judged because of my lack in focusing and being accountable. I have dreams and goals, but my depression overpowers the need to live, so they remain ideas. I just want to live happy, adventure more and do shit i love. Where do i start?

    Thank you Tinybuddha,
    Keon

    June 4, 2015 at 4:24 am #77729
    Inky
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    Hi kdot,

    The first step is to see a doctor. Just pick up the phone (or have your parents do it if you’re “frozen”) and make the appointment. Then wait until the appointment begins. Tell the doc about your anxiety and depression. He will likely give you a prescription or refer you to someone. Follow the doctor’s orders. That’s all you have to do. I’m not into drugs, but this is one of those times when It’s OK to take them to get you living again.

    Blessings,

    Inky

    June 4, 2015 at 4:53 am #77730
    Inky
    Participant

    P.S. If you did that route, follow another route: diet change, psychotherapy, get your hormones checked, living out in nature, you get the idea..

    June 4, 2015 at 7:24 am #77733
    Anonymous
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    Dear Keon:
    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) – so to change your self limiting beliefs, as you called them through insight into your past and learning the skills you need to learn and practice. Slowly, if you take one step at a time,one small step at a time… the tiniest step toward healing- you are very likely to get, over time, to a much better place in your mind and life.

    Hope you can do that:
    anita

    June 4, 2015 at 8:32 am #77737
    Jayme
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    Hi Keon – From what I’m hearing is that you are going through lots of pain and a little anger. I would suggest you calling or having someone else set up an appointment as soon as possible for you to seek therapy and possibly medication. In many cases as yours, medication will benefit you to get you seeing a clear picture so that you can determine the true issue. It sounds to me you have a moderate case of depression. It is treatable and can be overcome fairly quickly. Have you suffered from depression for a long time or is this an acute situation? Negative thoughts can be changed by simply replacing them with positive thoughts. Write down ten positive things about yourself. When you begin thinking negative thoughts read and re-read these positive things about yourself. You mention a disconnect with your family. Try to sit down with them and take small steps to reconnect. Maybe simply just sit down and watch tv together or sit down a during dinner time and have dinner. Remember…you are not alone. I urge you to seek therapy. If you want to speak with someone over the phone a Crisis-Help line is there for you. 1(800)273-8255 If you need immediate help call 911.

    Hope this helps.

    June 6, 2015 at 3:15 pm #77793
    BenzRabbit
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    Hi Keon,

    Sometimes life puts us through tough situations demanding change from ourselves !

    Outside forces including family add to the pressure but it is your soul demanding you find your ‘life path’ !!

    Basically, you are ‘lost’ and seeking ‘love’ – as simple as that !!!

    Find your purpose and love will follow.

    Here is the link to simple steps you can take today:
    http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Your-Purpose-in-Life

    GOD bless !

    June 7, 2015 at 7:40 am #77804
    Bethany Rosselit
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    Hi Keon,

    Thank you for reaching out! It sounds like you are aware that you have limiting beliefs, which is a HUGE first step. Becoming aware of beliefs can help you to take strides toward redefining them.

    Often, anxiety is caused by a subconscious mind that feels unsafe, due to deep-seated beliefs that trigger the fight-or-flight response. Seeing a doctor for medication can be a good first step, and calm the noise enough that you can move forward. But, ultimately, you will want to look at your thoughts and beliefs and redefine this reality that you are seeing. As the previous posters have mentioned, there are a number of avenues toward doing this.

    Here is a post I wrote about the fight-or-flight response, which may be helpful: http://www.blogher.com/understanding-and-managing-your-fight-or-flight-response?crumb=19 .

    Hang in there, and keep us posted!

    Bethany Rosselit
    http://onlinetherapyandcoaching.org

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