Hi Harold,

What I see, at least on the surface, is that there is a history with the first girl of repeatedly not wanting to spend time with you for reasons that she has. I also see your repeated efforts to “see” her only to end up with some emotional disturbances that I am sure affect you greatly. The reasons she has to not want to see you, are legitimate reasons to her. When you said, “Now i am more in love with her, she doesn’t take me more seriously and it hates me deeply. I want to talk to her. I can call she isn’t answering my calls or returning any calls.” Why do you say that you are in love with a woman who wants to move on with her life? She may very well not want to be involved with you or anyone else and you should be the bigger person and respect her reasons as being just that, her reasons. Her reasons are not for anyone to try to change. As you continue to pursue a relationship with a woman who does not want to commit you, you are missing SO many chances of meeting “that special someone” because your efforts are focused on what you want, regardless of what the other person wants. This is not fair to either of you. I would like to offer that, perhaps you should thank her, either to her personally or through thought, for having your lives come together however briefly, and wish her happiness in her journey. I know my response can easily be misconstrued as negative, hostile, defensive, or whatever word you choose. I assure you my friend they are not.

Pearce