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    Eses.tg
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    Hi everyone im new to this site and so excited,let me tell you my story,my gf and i knew each other from 2 years ago,and we are in same university,she became my gf about 7 month ago as i asked her for,but after 5 days of our start she came and told me that she didnt attracted and she dont want to continue and i will find a better one,of course that was our first experience for both,and she revealed that she was not in love and had some standards for a person that she wants to be with, and that time i told her that we just talked to each other about 5 days we havent known each other enough,but she refused and told good bye and i said goodbye,she told all this things over chat,but i didnt give up and i asked her out to see her face to face and i told her that if all this things are misunderstands about my behaviour,i will show you that im not this kind of person not if you wanna go , you are free to go,but she and her friend were there and when she wanted to answer her friend told her something in her ear and she accepted,so by this thing happend i got a little scared and i refused to do my plans and i became a nice guy who gives the power to his gf hands(because of our bad start and fear of losing her),so by the way days passed and we had some quality time together and she started to send me lovely post about me and started to show me her feelings,and i started to get satisfy but at that time i never talked about my feauture plans and we didnt share anything together,because she told i never think about marriage,so after 3 month ,i got my face broken and i had a surgery on it,so after that because of changes that made i ve got cold and distant with all people and of course her to,so it started to be the way that she always text me every day (most of days)and some times she got angry of that and ofcourse i was inexprienced and i didnt know what is happening,and in that month i was in another city far from her,so by the way it gets cold and cold so we didnt meet each other about 20 days ,finally in the last days of our relationship i came back to university for the new semster and i saw her,she became cold and her behaviour towards me was diiferent ,so in the last weak i got angry from her one day and left her and went to dormitory ,after that she said why are you acting like this,i tooke a revenge ant told her i get so sad when you are sad and im week i cant help ,,she said so i should be always happy when you see me?i told her yes ,and i got back to my home that day and two days later i saw that she got very very cold and i started to convince her and tell her that i made these mistakes by no purpose and stuff like that,she was angry with my nice guy behavior ,because she said why should i always tell you to go our and something like this,at the end of the coversation she said i ve got futile sense in the relationship ,i didnt understand what she is saying at that time,so i told her how much do you believe in our relationship?she told 10 percent ,and i got upset and said you want to finish it?she said no idont want to think about it for the next 2 month,after that i said some jokes and told her how much i love her and we got good again,of course and that period there was pressure on me ,because i was toooo busy ,so 2days later i got back to university and went out with her friend and by gift for and aplogized for everything that happend and her friend gave it to her ,but she messaged me and it seemed she wasnt impressed and was cold again,i ve got upset again,and that night i went over chat and talked her so finally i asked this worst question that i told her do you feel futile again?she refused to answer but i stuck on the question,and she finally told me idont love you and in this 4month i ve found out i cant be with you and stuff like this,at that time i ve got emotionally distabilized and said you wanna finish it?she said yes,i was to angry and said ok and we finished it,so the next day her friend came to me and gave me the gift she bought for my birthday which was 10 days later at that time,i regret the things that happend and i talked to my some close friends and i found out i didnt put much effort for my relationship,ofcourse i didnt know and didnt ask anybody unfortunently,after 4 days i messaged her to come out i wanna see her ,she told me i told you every thing why shoud i come out?next day i messaged her again and told her how much i love her and im so regretful and i wanna build our relationship again,she told me this relationship is over and you should pass over it whether you wnat it or not,she said you and other are same to me and its non of your bussines that who i want to be with in future,and she said if you talk anymore i will block you,i came into relationship because my friends told me you are acting wrong,i ve got shocked at that time and somedays later by my stupid friends advices i got messaged her again and she blocked me after that i came to her and begged and she told me your words are same as before,so finally i begged again over text and instagram and she finally told me delete my number and blocked me from instagram,she told me that you have no problem but we are in different worlds,but i know she was lying because one month before she loved me as hell,she meant to me dont be a nice guy,lead me ,be active in relationship and make it grow,but i didnt get her,so now on after 3 month i still love her and i changed myself alot and sitution is 100% hopeless but i love her and i want her,but i wanna ask you is there anyhope?ofcourse i ruined my diginity for her but i think it worth ,i was really amature because i didnt know anything and i thought that im acting right,but now i ve become a real man and i knew what she wants,her birthday is about the next month,should i do something or let it go?because i know i want her and i want to become a new ,good partner to her,and iknew her friends too,thanks guys ,sorry for be too long

    #212869
    Inky
    Participant

    My advice to you is to rewrite this with periods, capital letters at the beginning of the sentence, and paragraphs. I literally couldn’t read this giant block of a run-on sentence. I tried. I really did.

    I will say that after you break up with someone a good rule of thumb is to wait a year before you contact them again.

    Inky

    #212881
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Eses.tg:

    I think you should let go and give up on a relationship with her, no longer trying to contact her in any way. What happened in this relationship as I understand it to be, is that you were not honest with her. You “became a nice guy” because of your “fear of losing her”, but you were not that nice guy you pretended to be.

    In pretending to be a nice guy, you felt that you were “a nice guy who gives the power to his gf”, and that made you angry, to think that you gave her your power. And you expressed that anger at her. A mix of love and anger (and fear, of course) is what I see your experience to be, in the context of this relationship.

    I think it is a good idea that you don’t pretend anything, not to be a nice guy and not to be a rude guy. Be an honest, fair guy, one who expresses his emotions in a straightforward, responsible way and respects the woman in your life to make her own choices. If she doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, don’t pursue her.

    If she wants to be in a relationship with you, be authentic and respectful, let her be who she is, as you are who you are, with her. Be assertive with her and respect her assertions.

    anita

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