Hi Doreen,

So is he trying to get you back? Seems to me that you have completely lost your trust in him. Without trust, a relationship is very unstable.

Hm..if you decide not to give the relationship another chance and know very well that deep down you can never trust him again, i think the best way is to not have any form of contact with him. Just let him know how you feel and tell him not to contact you anymore. Yes it’s going to be hard since it’s your first relationship, but to really move on the first step is to cut ties with him for however long it takes you to forget him (this method is extremely useful for me since it has helped me tremendously in getting over my ex of 9yr). Try to engage in doing something fun like hanging out with your friends or anything that you enjoy doing. If you really want to move on you also have to believe in yourself that you can do it. Try not to think about him. And whenever you are ready, just make new friends and see where that will lead you.

Life is too short to dwell on sadness and negative thoughts.

Wish you best of luck!

His Loyalty Should not depend on your presence…even in your absence Loyalty is essential.

Edit: Your house meaning his house. A neighbor could be a trusted friend, too.

In my experience, you will never get the trust back – as the break of trust is too betraying. Too many lies, too many forms of deciet. Even if you forgive – its the forgetting that is the problem. As much as you want to – it is very hard to do, unless you are a very very stoic and non emotional person. If you have a tendency to analyse, you will find it near impossible.
Cut your losses. He is immature and wanted silly fantasy nonsense instead of the woman beside him.
Maybe some will say im being harsh, but I wasted time on a guy, went to therapy – where he used the time to deny all wrongdoing. You may waste precious time. Even if he says the sun moon and stars – would you believe him ?
I feel your pain. I have been there, was engaged, broke it off – and I am very very thankful I did. Turned out I did the right thing.
Just dont waste your good years on an eejit who should have known a good thing when he had it. ( for the record i’m pretty hot – if I do say so myself – so none of it is ever to do with it – its about the thrill of being a sneaky little snake 🙂 ) Whatever you do – know it has zero to do with you, and all about his need for en ego boost.
As you can see – if I think of it I still get angry. I still feel like slapping his face ! But not worth our time. Be with someone who cares for you – he would do it to anyone, even the silly foolish virtual girl from Colorado. He would do the very same to her.
You are worth more…close the chapter.
Meditate, let go, he gas a journey and lessons to learn. He has a moral compass to grow, somehow, and some self control to cultivate. Believe me – dont wait for this doorknob to man up 🙂
Namaste, xxxx.

Hi girl…..
I cant tell you how much i feel you.
You cant do anything about this.
Guys are immature and waant sex with other women and we lose their trust .
This is the game unfortunately.
The first option is that you maybe accept this fact in general..for example men arent perfect..people arent perfect and world is sometimes unfair.
We hve to accept this.
We take lessons from these experiences like this..that happened to you.
Maybe its a lesson you hve to learn from life.maybe something you didnt know until now.The second option is that is this you
dont

accept your fiance’s behaviour..get a rce”